Mourning my old life
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I feel so guilty for feeling this way this is very validating. I deffinately mourn my old life. I used to do things I actually enjoyed. I love being a mom and I enjoy being a mom but the same thing happened with me. We got marriage January 1st 2023 and found out in June I was pregnant. I always struggle woth this feeling and I feel terrible about feeling it. I was told I would never have kids so he is a huge blessing but it's still a huge change
When I do go out with friends it feels so natural. Like this is my real life and going home to the baby is some second version of me. I didn't find out I was pregnant until month 6 so I don't feel like I had enough time to mentally prepare.
I 100% agree with you had my first baby in january after having 4 miscarriages I live her with all my heart but it has been tough as i am 20 and i am starting to feel like i have given up my freedom even though this is something that i wanted i feel so guilty bc i wouldn’t change anything about my life and having a baby it’s just tough some times 😢❤️
@Jen I’m 21 and feel the same it’s been a tough transition for sure but I just keep telling myself that of course getting used to something new is always gonna be hard at first but it 100% gets better. And as he gets older we’ll get to play more and do so many fun things together. And a really cool thing about having a baby young is that he’ll be all grown up and I won’t even really be old yet. Just trying to keep looking towards all the little positive things like that keeps me going when it gets hard.
I'm the same way ☹️ I feel like I don't even know who I am or what I like anymore. I feel like my soul purpose is to care for him and when he's asleep or someone else is holding him like I don't even know what to do with myself
@Nabila Definitely glad i’m not the only one ❤️ gotta just stay positive:)
@Nabila I think that’s part of my main issue. I’m not young and when he’s old enough to be on his own, it will be time for me to retire. 🤷♀️
I think about this every day! I think it’s probably super normal 🩵
I do miss the freedom of getting up just choosing what I want to do whenever I want to do it. I miss alone time with my husband uninterrupted. I miss so much about my “old life” but I also find time to show gratitude of where I am now because I know so many women who would trade places with me in a heartbeat. It’s all about perspective but you are not alone in those feelings.
10000% I have a lot of guilt surrounding it too. Some days I sit and wonder if I made the biggest mistake going through with the pregnancy and giving birth but then she looks up at me smiling and I just feel awful. I love my daughter with my whole heart but it's a very HARD transition. It does get easier as she gets older though.