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I'm so sorry, you are not supposed to be doing this all alone. It's time for a serious conversation with your husband to talk about what parts he can take on. This is tricky because you really shouldn't have to let a grown man know he needs to take care of his child. As much as you can, gather support. It can be a battle to get help with baby duties and you'll need the emotional support and reassurance. Look for local mom Facebook groups, Meetups, or if you're at all religious the right church/synagogue/mosque can be a great support
All you can do is speak openly and honestly with his undivided attention. It helps to use "I statements" when talking about your own feelings. "I feel..." Hold his hands and look at him in the eyes. If it looks and sounds like a blame game, it can become a defensive situation. I'm sure you would rather have a constructive conversation. We want to find kindness and understanding in our words. If you still struggle to communicate, you might need someone neutral like a counselor. I wish you the best of luck! I hope you can be what each other needs in a partnership ❤️
Can you sit down with your husband and explain this? I know the feeling all too well, I was working more than full time less than 3 months postpartum until I found out I was pregnant again and I’m that time, I got up before my husband, fed the baby and went to work, came home, bathed the baby, fed her again, did laundry, washed dishes all while he was just making dinner. Then I would put baby down most nights and he would just play games (mind you he was a SHD at the time so he did everything while I was working) but it felt like he didn’t even acknowledge I had been on my feet and working for 8-12 hours every day (I worked as a barista so there was never any down time) luckily, he found work and I decided to quit when I found out about baby #2. But I felt the exact same way until I told him straight up, “I can’t do everything just because I’m here, we need to be a team.” And he understood. It took a few days of “practice” but we do everything pretty 50/50 now