Mixed feelings

Im in my early 20s and currently 24 weeks pregnant, and the closer it gets to my due date the more I feel like I’m not gonna be a good mum. I’m so excited to meet our baby girl in September and we’ve buying so much stuff for her, but at times I regret keeping the pregnancy because I miss my pre-pregnancy life. None of my friends stay in touch with me anymore, my partner and my mum are pretty much the only people I speak to. If I leave my house it’s only to go walk my dog or go shopping. I used to try reach out to my „friends” and see if they would like to hang out but they always said they were busy and then posted stories from clubs etc so eventually I just gave up and now we haven’t spoken in months and even though I know it showed they were never my real friends I guess it just gets lonely sometimes and I find it weird talking to my bump I don’t know if it’s normal to feel that way, but sometimes I just don’t know if I made the right decision

Show your support

Alot of people come and go and its more when someone gets pregnant. You are just on a different path at the moment but it will lead you to better friends who will be there as they know how you feel

It's normal for sure. It's a huge shift. I can relate as many of the activities that I used to identify with I couldn't do during pregnancy. It might be worthwhile to find new friends who you can do things with now. Easier said than done i know. Motherhood is a whole new adventure. It's totally normal to grieve for previous times but you might find yourself surrounded by better people in the next phase of life!

Hey, things will get better I promise. When you first see your baby you’re be so in love and I’m sure you’ll see it was worth it! I suggest maybe going to antenatal classes you can make friends with woman at the same stage as you and for when you’re baby is born. Also when baby is here go to baby groups, there’s free ones at libraries and health visitors. Talk to other other mums on here. Also maybe reach out to your friends and let them know how you feel? It will all be okay, feel free to message me if you want x

Don’t worry girl. When I was pregnant I lost a lot of friends even someone I considered my best friend! But in the end the couple of people i have left are all that matter. You will loose people along the way but just take it as a sign that their energy wasn’t ever supposed to be around your child. Cherish the people you do have that have stuck by you and know bad mums don’t worry about being bad mums so your concern proves you will be a good mum. You will be a good mum and you did make the right decision, there will be hard times and good times but in the end it will be worth it!

I felt the same way. Found out I was pregnant right before my 21st birthday, and since I've been pregnant to now, I've only had 3 friends check up on me and keep in touch. When you have a big change in your own world, you find out who your true friends are. As for being afraid....being a mom is terrifying. You will never know if you're doing anything right or wrong until your baby grows up. When you see what a beautiful woman she becomes, you'll know you did something right❤️

In the same boat as you, also due September! I spoke to my midwife about how I was feeling for extra support x

‌

‌
‌

‌

‌
‌

‌

‌
‌

‌

‌
‌

‌

‌
‌

‌

‌
‌