Do you ever miss your old life before kids?

You’re definitely not a bad mum! The constantly being needed and being tired and overstimulated is hard I sometimes miss my old life too x

Thank you for this post When I saw it, I looked back and wondered what I missed about my past life. Was it the drinking/smoking/partying? Was it the shitty job? Etc etc It was the thought of not being able to up and go somewhere randomly.... something just switched in my head and I have just decided to randomly go somewhere! As long as have her stuff she is fine ❤️ Thank you x

@Emma I don’t miss going out and stuff because I never really enjoyed that 🤣 I think it’s the freedom? Also people sell you this dream that having kids is the best thing ever and I don’t feel that way

100% I must admit, the last couple of weeks have been bad with my mental health. I didn't notice it until I burst out crying in the middle of a shop. I haven't been able to eat healthy because LO always needed me right in the middle of cooking so been eating quick crap stuff. We haven't been going out because "She's not old enough to understand this museum or whatever" Etc Then your message, just made me snap. I can do stuff she won't understand it but I'm on maternity leave for crying out loud. When am I ever going to be able to have time off like this again? F*ck it let's go to a museum! 😅

I actually don’t, because I still get to see friends, have lunch, have dinners, still continued (and started new ones) hobbies. But I have a really supportive encouraging partner to thank for that, for that to be possible. I have some friends that have really lost themselves coz either baby is way too hard/demanding/clingy and/or their partner works way too many hours and hence mama feels guilty taking time off. Luckily for me I don’t have neither, so I’m able to continue some of my life before as to not lose myself. And for @Emma it doesn’t matter if baby can’t remember- go to museums, zoos, festivals, expos - for yourself. Not for the baby. Yes the baby tags along but for a fun day out- is for you. Don’t worry about the baby “not remembering”…. You’ll have a good day regardless. Esp if you go w someone

@Kellie don't get me wrong I have a very supportive family, have food out, see friends and go to baby clubs etc I think it was more about spending money when she wouldn't remember but like you say it's for me more than anything. Today we made the mistake of going to blist Hills, but if I didn't go then I would have been kicking myself