Do you ever miss your old life before kids?
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@KB I’m sorry you are feeling this way too it’s hard isn’t it. I get the lonely part too as I don’t really have any proper friends. I’ve been to one mum and baby group but I found it very clicky
I'm super bored busy. I used to be able to go out without little to no thought and now everything just seems too time consuming. I also am on Mat leave so I went from conversating with people to pretty much instant radio silence, which is taking me a lot longer to adjust too. I agree with both of you I didn't realize how lonely I would feel. I love my LO but I miss adult conversation
Having an outside hobby really helps me. There I find friends. I know I’ve got that on that same day same time every week so I look forward to going. It’s my hobby/breaks/socialising/exercise all in the one night, it’s what fulfills me and helps my identity outside a mum. Maybe look for a hobby group that you’re interested in.
Just wanna share my way of going through tough time. For the mat leave, I go hiking or go to the beach a lot with friends. I also visit my friend's house often in the weekend. In the weekday, there are playgroup where I can meet other moms that go through same phrases. I try to keep old life style as much as possible and find activities that both me and my kid enjoy. I know it is still limiting a lot compared to single lifestyle but it is just for a year or couple years till kid go to daycare. When kid go to school, you will have have more time to yourself. I get a lot of side hustle and do some online study at night which brings me a lot of conversations outside of⁷ daily life/children topics. I prefer to have kids with big gap as bigger kid can be a good help around the house. At least they can play or keep an eyes on little one so i still can do chores, fix the house, do garden work...
I do for sure.
Yes. All the time. Even though I know everything I do makes a difference, it’s hard to feel rewarded by it because it can’t be seen. I’m hoping when mine get a bit bigger I will be more content/satisfied. I feel super lonely too. I live somewhere with no like mommy and me classes and it’s too hot to go to open spaces like parks.