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No you're not alone. Every one feels this but know it doesn't last forever. You're actions will reflect onto your kids. So be the best version of yourself. They are sponges. Do you want to grow old alone and with no family. No. Do you want to have a family, grandkids, etc for the holidays. Probably. Shift your mindset. You'll have time to be alone soon enough and get back to your same life.
A big part is just making sure you take the time for you to get some self care in. Dress nice not just mom clothes even if they get grubby hand prints clothes yourself in things that make you feel good, shower daily so your hair and makeup a tad. Nourish your body and make sure you are well hydrated! Two babes back to back is a lot and can be challenging recovering from the nutrients lost. Focus on nutrient dense foods animal foods and whole food fruits and veggies. Remember that your life before was just different not better or worse. Get some support for daily breaks even if it’s just sitting with a cup of tea while the kids play together. You don’t always have to be giving giving giving or entertaining. Sometimes the kids can just be together in a safe space watched over while you lean back and let them figure it out for a bit. Haha mine are 3 and 18 months so I get what you’re going through. I struggled with feeling angry and frustrated too part of it was just recognizing in those
Moments that I wasn’t really angry with them I was angry that I could have, do or be somewhere or something else. So I wasn’t being present with them. Also making time for myself and insisting on taking care of myself as just as important as taking care of them. If that meant letting go to there being a little mess from them pulling things out in the bathroom while I get ready so be it. They know when I’m done it all goes away. Just start doing your routine and letting them just be your little shadows. Instead of making everything revolve around them. That was my challenge anyway. I made everything about them and their routine and their activities and left no room for myself which made me feel resentful in the moments with them. I also got back to some passions and into some online work and then found a church and started getting involved with the community there. All of that helped but the church and community factor has been making the biggest difference.
Just having something and some here that I go and the kids come with me as a family and there’s other people to take them off my hands love them and play with them during that time gives me time to focus on my relationship to god and asking him to soften my heart and help me with my anger issues has been an honest gamechanger. Also having something or soemone to lean on in those stressful times is a real refuge for the soul. Just know you aren’t alone and there’s people out here that want to help you and love you when you open your heart to them! Dm me if you want 💞
No I feel this 2 I have a 12 Yr old 4 Yr old and 1 Yr old but my 4yr old is on spectrum of autism and adhd and no one will help they say his to young for anything yet