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The most annoying thing anyone has said would be when my bump finally popped at 5 months and I was uncomfortable, still vomiting everyday, sweating, aches and pains, the whole shebang - and people I worked with said there was nothing there or I was barely even pregnant. 🙄 Another thing is people telling me how to birth, that my birth plan is ridiculous, I'm niave, what drugs are the best etc. as if it's a one-size-fits-all situation lol.
Partner and brother laughing when I can’t do something and they are not being sympathetic as I have PGP.
What annoys me the most is when people say things like “we didn’t do x, y, z in our day and my children turned out fine” - typically referring to sleep safety, or weaning choices. My go to response is always “that’s survivors bias though. YOUR kids may have been fine, but many weren’t. And there’s a bunch of research that says THIS is the safest way to do x, y, z. So thanks for your input, but I’ll keep doing it this way as I’d rather not take that chance”.
Literally has to be when I said I was looking forward to baby being here, it'll be nice to get a comfortable sleep free from PGP, needing to wee and round ligament pain and she said 'haha well arnt you naive, you realise the lack of sleep you get now is just the start, it's only going to get worse' 😂 MADE ME FEEL SO MUCH BETTER AFTER HAVING BEEN AWAKE FOR 24HRS FEELING LIKE MY VAJ WAS BEING SPLIT IN HALF AND DETACHED FROM MY PELVIS ALL NIGHT SO THANK YOU I'LL TAKE A BROKEN PAIN FREE SLEEP OVER A BROKEN PAINFUL SLEEP ANYDAY, JOG ON! 🤯
Not advice but the "just wait" really grind me
My in laws know I’ve developed really bad insomnia throughout my whole pregnancy and yet they keep reminding me to ‘get as much sleep as you can before the baby arrives’ 😐
After being in labour for 4 days ending in an emergency c section i mentioned I would probably have a planned section for my next child to be told.. ‘why don’t you push it out like the rest of us’ … and people wonder why some C-section mums feel like a failure. Desperate for a Vbac this time as a 🖕🏼
@Kirsty this one is also particularly stupid because everyone knows you can't bank sleep 🙄
Being sick like three times a day in the first trimester and someone saying the baby is only this big at the moment you know as if size of baby is related level of pregnancy sickness
The "well aren't you getting big?" comment gets me.. like yeah, that's the plan here 😂.
I honestly have a really big bump for being 34 weeks.. and when I get asked how much longer and say "about 6 weeks left," they just make "that" face. 😬😶🧐 Like, THANKS for the reassurance. Judgy people..
@Emily I’m the same want to slap them 🤣🤣
@Emily I’ve had this one a lot too! Im 34 weeks now but even at 28 weeks some shop assistant decided to comment on how big I am and that I must be due soon. When I said I have a few months left they were like nooo way. I was like 😒…
'Ooo not long now' or '2 so close together, your in for a hard time'👏 no shit sherlock, here's a golden star ✨️ 🖕
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Too many bits of unsolicited unhelpful advice to list. Fine if you know me but if you don’t you are just projecting and I’m not down for it
After I just had my 1st, I was at a supermarket and the lady at the check out told me oh this this is the easy bit , but I was really struggling adjusting to being a new mum and having no sleep so that was NOT helpful to hear, 1or2 weeks after giving birth. I still stand by the new born stage being the hardest stage for me personally, for so many reasons, even if it was mostly the shock of it. But clearly it isn't the hardest stage for everyone.
“You really need to put them in their own room and in their big crib when they reach six weeks old, don’t have them in with you”. How about no? He’ll sleep in my room in his next2me crib, thank you
"summer babies struggle, give them time at school/uni"... Like can I have the baby first before worrying about school, uni and gap years 😂
People KEEEP telling me my baby is coming early and its really starting to upset me. Just want to punch people when they say it. We’ve got so much prep to do before baby comes so they don’t understand how stressful it will be for me if it was to happen.
So sick of fuckers like this 😡😡😡
@Maes Everyone told me my first was gonna be early. He was over a week late and even then didn’t want to come out (had to be induced). Don’t take any notice - it’s impossible to know when they’re going to make an appearance. But also, even if baby IS early, don’t worry if there’s still stuff to do. You make it work. All baby really needs is you! The rest will fall into place.
Oh I've also been told 'because you're bigger than most you won't have a bump the same way a skinnier woman would so dont get too excited about maternity clothes' and 'don't just give into your cravings, you need to limit your calories, you don't want to eat too much as you're already on the bigger side, we don't want the baby coming out too big' 😂 I was only a size 14 following a gastric bypass where I lost 9 stone, really didn't need advice on eating and weight gain 🤣 x
Someone told me not to name my baby while I’m pregnant incase I miscarry and having a name for them makes it “that bit harder”