Torn between decisions

i was going to have the d&c but got covid and ended up passing it naturally. Passing naturally was hard mentally but also a little bit relieving as i knew for sure baby didn’t make it & i wasn’t like killing it if it was actually alive. I had a big fear that they were wrong & me getting the d&c was just them taking my alive baby that said was dead

@Jessica the whole them being wrong was definitely my fear too, but I’ve gotten multiple HCG tests since they originally told me and my numbers just continue to drop drastically and i am not longer feeling any pregnancy symptoms, so i just have a strong feeling its truly gone.

How far along are/were you? If you're still quite early there is a pretty good chance you won't see anything but blood if you choose the medication. I've had 5 miscarriage naturally and the earlier they were the less traumatizing it was. I always chose to wait it out, like said before, just so I'm sure the baby didn't make it. If I chose medical intervention there would always be the "what if" question in my mind. I've also heard that a D&C can be quite rough mentally. It can be such a hard choice to make.

My first miscarriage I had to have a d&c the other 7 miscarriages I waited it out and last Aug I gave birth to my baby boy reggie via medication it was the most painful thing I have ever had to go through so everytime I would chose d&c xxxx

I had pneumonia so my options were limited as couldn't have an anaesthetic, so I went with medical and it didn't work. A week later I still wasn't well enough for surgery so tried medical again and again it didn't work. I think it's only around 15% of cases that it doesn't work but when I eventually did get my surgical management, a month after finding out it was a miscarriage, it was such a quick and simple procedure. If I were to go through it again and had the choice, I'd go for surgical.

If I have to go through this again, and there's a very real possibility I might ( got a scan to find out on Monday) I wouldn't take the medicated option. I took that option in Covid as a D&C wasn't available because of covid. The medication didn't work as intended and I ended up very sick and having emergency surgery. I'd give my body chance to do what it needed to do but if it didn't play ball I'd opt for the surgery. Whatever you decide make sure to read the risks and that your comfortable with them if they happen.

I had a d & c and it was 100% the right decision for me. Everything was removed, I was asleep and saw nothing. Recovery (physically) was quite quick too. What are your family against?! You aren’t aborting a baby, it has unfortunately passed and needs to come out for your own wellbeing. Whether you took meds or had surgery the end result is the same. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I would recommend surgery as the best option definitely

Hi So sorry for your loss. I had a missed miscarriage last June and decided to have the D&C and it was the best option for me as I couldn't mentally or emotionally handle seeing baby come out of me at home. Your put to sleep takes about half an hour and you can go home the same day. Very quick and alot easier to deal with aswell. It's your choice at the end of the day no one else's.x

So sorry for your loss lovely! I opted for the medication for my mmc last year and it was the best option for me. It was v painful but happened relatively quickly and from what I understand you can start ttc soon after the process is done, which was really important to us. I did see baby come out and it was a shock at first but we got to say a prayer over it and say goodbye. Depending on how far along you are you won’t see body parts but a translucent sack, so you know what it is but it helps it doesn’t look like a “baby”. I also didn’t go d&c because I was worried about scarring in uterus which is a risk and could affect later ttc. I can see lots of people had a positive experience with d&c but wanted to assure you medical management can also be a good option. Just consider the risks for all options and you will make the best decision for you. Good luck 🌈

I choose natural as was worried medically controlled could damage my fertility, they reassured me it's safe bit I didn't want to risk it. By natural I was able to grieve my babies loss as well. X

I opted for mifepristone/misoprostol for both of my early miscarriages (7 and 8 weeks). The second miscarriage, I just needed an additional dose 24 hours later but both times I had minimal cramping and passed everything cleanly. I had a 17 week d&e (the second trimester version of a d&c) and it didn’t get everything. I had to go back a month later for another d&c because there was retained placenta still stuck there. I had to wait another cycle after that before I could try again which was so upsetting but I got pregnant the cycle we started up. I recommend medical management to decrease chances of scarring and there’s also always the chance that they won’t get everything even with a d&c. But pills are just what worked for me