Fear..

I’ve had 3 miscarriages and now I’m pregnant with my rainbow baby. I’m currently 9 weeks 2 days and I’ve had two positive reassurance scans that showed growth and a healthy heartbeat. Does the fear of something happening ever go away, I’m constantly analysing everything like when I wipe or a cramp, does this ever go away? Can’t wait to find out if it’s a girl or boy, what do you guys think it will be? 💙💖
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I've also had 3 miscarriages and also 9 weeks 4 days so I'm here with you lovely ❤️ Every toilet trip is full of anxiety. Hopefully the fear will lessen once we're into the second trimester ☺️ when is your due date? Mine is 27th December x

I’m due the 30th December

Hi lovely congratulations! And I’m so sorry for you previous losses🤍 I’ve had 2 miscarriages one being a missed miscarriage before my little rainbow boy was born, I completely get the fear and I don’t trust my body anymore it’s hard. When I became pregnant with my little boy I was so anxious checking every wipe and just praying to get to the next stage and when I did it was such a relief🫶🏼 but even now I’m pregnant after a perfect healthy boy, I’m still terrified and check every time I wipe too etc. I think the fear never goes away, you’re just grateful every time you get to a new stage of pregnancy, hang in their mumma, as every day progresses it gets a little easier🤍xx

So sorry to hear about your previous losses💔. I've had 3 miscarriages too and 4 years infertility. 10 weeks tomorrow and praying I'll relax more at 12/16 weeks. It's hard to enjoy the experience at the moment. Wish I could just lean into it and be ecstatic. Hope we all get that amazing feeling in the next few weeks 🥰🥰♥️♥️

I'm so glad I saw this post thought i was the only one who had these feeling

With my son, it was followimg a MC. and it really ruined part of my excitement. The worry took over and i didn't ever relax until he was born.... then its a whole different type of worry 🤦🏼‍♀️ Only thing i can offer which i tried to do is just take each day as a positive, 1 day down is 1 day closer to meeting baby. I had alot of private scans which if you are able to do i would recommend as i couldn't go 12 to 20wks without knowing so i had my own two done in-between. I'm now pregnant again and i feel much more relaxed... I've still had private scans done and i check tissue every time but I'm not googling every night about what could go wrong. Wishing you alot of luck for a healthy pregnancy 😊

Hello. I’ve never had a miscarriage but I have had a full term stillbirth so I know how fearful loss is just in a different way. I’m 9+3 and I felt a little bit better after a scan. I’m not sure the fear does go away but I’m sure as time goes on and the pregnancy progresses the anxiety will get a little easier for you to live with. Congratulations on your little rainbow! 🌈. Xx

@Sophie can't even begin to imagine how traumatic this is for you, or anyone who goes through that. So sorry for your loss and wishing you all the best for this pregnancy and your baby xx

Personally I haven’t had a miscarriage or a loss, but I still feel anxious allll the time, I’ve been the same in all my pregnancies, constantly checking the tissue for blood, later on I’m always prodding and poking my tummy to check if baby will move, even though they moved 5 minutes before I checked, the anxiety is awful and I cannot imagine how scary it must be for someone who has actually experienced it a few times before I am so so sorry for your losses, I’ll pray that you have a lovely healthy pregnancy and that you and your baby are very healthy ❤️ xx

@Rachel thank you, makes you realise just how uncertain everything is, pregnancy is scary. I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriage too, wishing the same to you ❤️‍🩹

I’ve had 4 miscarriages and I don’t think it gets any better until you can regularly feel them move to be honest, and then you’re worried about reduced movements all the time 😩 I’m a very anxious person so I find the anxiety takes over at every stage… worrying about miscarriage, movements, early labour or complications, then when they are born watching them breathe all night - now my eldest two are teenagers and I think they cause the most anxiety I’ve ever had! it just never ends 😂 xx

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