My thought today and let talk about it

Do you ever feel like it's hard to do certain things with your friends who don't have kids? It's almost like you don't have friends, even though you do. It's just that they don't have kids, and it makes it difficult to relate to certain things. Am I the only one who feels this way? Motherhood isn't just a tough job; it's a relentless, 24/7 commitment that demands everything from you. From managing work to caring for your child, picking them up from school, cooking, cleaning, and more—it's an endless cycle with no breaks. And it's made even harder when friends don't understand the immense responsibility you carry. Each day, you realize you're on this journey alone, prioritizing your child's needs over everything else. This often leads to losing friends who can't grasp that your life isn't about fun and spontaneity, but about scheduling and putting your child first at all times. I started to realize that, with or without friends, my life carried on. However, I do sometimes feel lonely because I want to vibe with others, but it's hard with people who don't understand that my life is different. I can't just wake up and decide to show up; I have to prioritize and ensure I have someone to watch my kids. I wish friends could understand this. The more I grow up, the more I realize I prefer to be around other mothers. We can schedule things together, relate much more, and they understand the struggles in a way that those without kids can't.

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I feel the exact same way!!

I lost all my friends without kids, as you said is hard when you have kids and they don't, they don't understand you as a mother....one of my best and close friend did not understand my postpartum depression and that I needed a time off to bond with my baby...she was thinking I could meet her as before, travel a long distances...it was a hard friendship to maintain and we stopped...other one understood that now I have other priorities and she did not want to disturb mevwith her talk , but occasionally I can contact her on WhatsApp.. is a shame...but many mothers in this situation

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Good friends will make an effort to relate to you, to participate in your world. I still have childless friends, but they all love my kids and make an effort to meet me when it's more suitable and even do things that are kids friendly (like going for a walk at the park or having coffee at a place that has children activities available). At the same time I make an effort not to just talk about kids all the time and not to make them feel like all their personal issues are small and unimportant compared to motherhood (sometimes we make them feel like they can't vent about stuff like relationships and work, because kids are so hard). Everyone needs to be flexible. Maybe you just don't have these kind of friends or maybe it's something you can work on your side, you have to evaluate if you can work on those friendships or if you just need new friends.

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