Mums with no ‘village’

Im not a single mum but my family are not toxic, none of us live in the same country which is tough. So I understand the lack of support. What I’ve been doing is putting myself out there and building my own village! Make friends who care about you, who will look at your little girl as a pseudo niece. Don’t feel guilty, you can’t change what has happened in the past but you can shape the future for her.

I'm not a single mum but my parents are in another country and my husband's parents are both not here anymore. Drop me a message if you want to chat. 😊

Yes, it's just me and my children. I've lost my Mum, Dad and only sibling in recent years. It's hard but my children keep me going

I'm not a single mum but also isolated from my extremely toxic family who basically left me at 7 months pregnancy. This app has been great in building my own village and luckily my partners family visit us as they live in another country. Sometimes it's best to build your own village as you can be the gatekeeper for your own sanity and safety and you can be sure that the people present for you and your baby are truly there because they care and you care for them.

@Laurie Feel free to message me. X

I am not a single mum but have no family around either. If you want, we can be penpals.

You did the best for your little one. Like you said breaking the cycle and just because you see a mum and a dad together doesn’t mean that it being just you and your little one is not a happy family. You’re doing great! In a lot of cases there is no village. I certainly don’t have one and I’m not single might as well be. Get yourself into mum and toddler groups in your local community take the leap and meet new mums also! You give your child everything they need. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Your little one will look back and said wow how the hell did my mum do it. It’s because we love them unconditionally and have no bloody choice at the end of the day! X

@Laura Thank you Laura. We go to lots of groups, I have never met anyone in a similar position but certainly lots that feel similar. I think it’s just night times it all hits me after staying strong all day. Xx

I really only have my husband. My family is beyond toxic and I have no friends.

Hiya, first time single mom here expecting baby boy in October. I also feel super overwhelmed as I am doing this solo, I’d love to chat more and offer one another support if you ever want🙏

I’m a single mom too. My only family here is my toxic mother and enabler sister. BD is not in the picture. I feel so guilty that we don’t have a bigger family all the time. I wish my daughter had siblings too, at the very least. I feel so awful about it

@Kat Yes of course x

@Ell Messaged you 😊

I feel mums carry the weight and burden of everyone else mistakes. You aren’t responsible for the fact that the people around you aren’t supportive and it’s not your guilt to carry for your little girl. Also I think the best villages are those that want to be there, rather than just there because they’re related. You will gradually build that village of support for yourself, but even without that you are more than enough for your little girl ❤️❤️

@Isobel Needed this 🩷