Competition?

When I bring up the things I feel I’m doing alone in my partnership… my partner uses the word competition… mentioning “everything’s a competition to you” for example.. I know the context is vague but I’m not coming from a place of “one upping” the other person.. I literally feel like a slave in my own home because I’m doing everything by myself and if I don’t do it.. it’s not done. like what the f response is that?? Please someone tell me that was response was purely from a narcissistic place of not wanting to take responsibility and flipping it back onto me!

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With most men, you have to be very careful with word choice. Instead of "can you do the dishes?" Or "can you help more around the house?" It needs to be "I could really use your help with laundry" or "I ran out of time today, it would be a big help if you could make dinner" as if they're saving the day. It makes me cringe every time but it means I don't have to do it all alone

Following bc same. Except my husband uses the term “dick measuring.” I’m a statistics person. I’ve been to the point of breaking down time spent, chores done, etc to get through to him. (Was an exercise in couples therapy of listing times when I reach out for support and what the response is and how that makes me feel/react I added in time spent and who’s doing what) I’m doing it all and yet it’s somehow a competition.

Thank you for the responses!!!! I appreciate it so much; I’m truly at a road block and @Sarah currently cringing but I will do anything at this point!! because I do believe in “It’s not what you say.. it how you say it”

@courtney I do the same thing because I’m a huge believer in EVERY form of communication and comprehension and that involves visuals. Even on paper I’m getting no where - I’ve even thought of a “support board” with notes and small reminders for both of us! 🤞🏽 I do hope things get better for you.

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