Sadness from underapreciation

What to do when your husband doesn’t put in enough effort to make you feel special or cared about or appreciated? He does everything around the house and with kids but in his spare time just sits on his phone or watches tv, not judging him AT ALL I know he is tired but it still really hurts sometimes. Especially on holidays like Mother’s Day. All I got was “happy Mother’s Day” once this morning. Even telling me in words how much he loves and appreciates me would’ve filled my heart but there wasn’t any of that and I can’t help but cry and cry myself to sleep. Keep thinking of my babies and hoping they will cherish me at least as they grow and do special things for me to make me feel loved. Has anyone experienced this? How do yall get through it/what do you do? (And yes I pray and turn to God each time. Just rly hoping for a positive change and keep waiting for it to come..)

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Have you spoken to him? Talked about love languages? Maybe fasting could help a lot as well or maybe counseling with your pastor.

I try to talk he just hasn’t been a good listener most times, he just makes me feel bad and starts talking about what his problem is with me. Just forever pointing fingers basically. We did some pastor counselling but nothing consistent as our pastor is very busy :( the love language thing I try to bring up and it kinda plants seeds but he only changes when he wants to I can’t necessarily speed it up. I would try fasting with prayer but I’m pregnant so I don’t think that would be good for baby. He’s been coming around though slowly it’s just painful when things happen obviously

Oh ok I see. Definitely don’t fast while pregnant. Is your husband saved? It sounds like he isn’t but continue to pray for him. Do you guys go on dates or have one on one time? Sometimes that’s what’s missing and having those conversations while on dates can definitely have a bigger impact than on a regular day. When you pray, do you go into warfare as well? Cause sometimes the enemy uses differences in how people show love to draw wedges between spouses so even though you pray, you also have to pray the right prayers and ask the Holy Spirit to show you what’s going on in your husband’s heart and spiritually so that you can address those things in prayer as well.

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