Losing friends after having a baby/during pregnancy

This has been bothering me for some time and I thought I'd share. I have around 5/6 very good friends that I have known for a long time and shared many milestones with. I was the first friend to get married/ pregnant ( I fell pregnant straight after the wedding). I slowly noticed my friends drifting away, but I always made sure I continued to keep contact/call/arrange seeing each other. I also shared with them I felt like they were drifting away. My baby is now 1, for the last couple of months I've not reached out to anyone because I feel fed up always being the one to reach out first. I feel upset that no one has even bothered to text, call, arrange to see each other. I also feel upset that we shared so many great memories and would spend so much time together and now they can't even be bothered to make a bit of effort despite all being single and having the time. Please share any similar experiences. I've come to accept it is what it is but feel heartbroken.

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All my friends' kids are older than my little boy as I was late to the party having a child. They all said when I was pregnant that we would meet up for play dates & and things, but I said I doubt we would because of the age gap between them. Exactly what I said has happened. I hardly see them & their kids hardly see my little boy.

I went through the same thing after my son was born, and again now I’m pregnant with my second child. It’s saddening and very hurtful. Big hugs to you. X

Well, it is what it is. Create your own world and happiness. Let them go

Yeah, I've had the same happen with both my kids, they're 9 years apart and two completely separate groups of friends as well. I CBA with it, we are moving away soon and I've no intention of keeping in touch with any of them now if the CBA with me 🤷‍♀️ hoping I'll make some new friends in our new area who want to be involved in mine and my kids life x

@Rachel Thanks for sharing your experience Rachel, it is really hurtful, I hope you find good people for you and your little boy X

@India thank you for sharing India, big hugs to you too ❤

@Ese thank you so much Ese, this is exactly what I needed to hear!

@Leisa Thank you for sharing your experience Leisa. Yes I'm going to take that approach too. Wishing you meet great people for you and your kids in your new area x

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