Two or three kids?
So I'm 37 this year, and I just had my second daughter, who has been so easy, but the new-born stage was horrible, with me having a reaction to the endone and having massive panic attacks and anxiety. She is now three months old, and I feel we are finding our feet again. We have had my partner's mum to help, as she has come from over the seas to help. The thing is, I'm sad I didn't get to have any boys, but I'm so thankful to have girls, as that was always a dream. I never thought I would have this sad feeling that I didn't get to have a boy. I'm thinking, should I try for another one in a year? It's so hard mentally to have kids, and I'm going to be sending them to a private school, which will be expensive. So I don't even know if, financially, we can handle having three. Is it normal to have these feelings, and I think I will regret it if I don't have another kid? I also had gestational diabetes during my pregnancy. Sorry if this seems like I'm rambling on; I just wanted to see what other people think.
Everyone says you only regret the child you didn’t have. You’ll always make do financially, just might not be as comfortable. Mentally, it’s just a season that too will pass in the months/years to come. I’m in the same position, and I’m trying not to put too much pressure on my decision until I need to make the decision. Currently my youngest is 4 months, so I like to think there’s a few years yet.