How is it even possible to be married and feel lonely af?!

I left my 1st marriage because of this. It took a ton of courage to end it. But OMG I'm so glad I did. Thought I'd never get married again... When you find someone that loves you the way you need to be loved... It's amazing.

If I leave I don’t think I’ll ever get married again. That’s not what scares me. I don’t want to get married again and I don’t want anything serious again. I’m scared of living on my own and don’t know if I’ll make it on my own. Did you have conversations with him to try to change ?

I’m going back and forth in my head about leaving. We’ve had a lot of issues in the past but it’s never ever been this bad. He’s always tried or apologized when he knew he was in the wrong but he just doesn’t give a shit no more and idk why I give a shit. There is this ounce of hope that he’s going to change. But idk ugh 😩

I felt that way and things got really bad for awhile and we almost split. We tried counseling but hubby wasn’t giving it his all. We lived separately for awhile but I kept making an effort to be kind (when I was really feeling resentful) eventually he came back and I’m so glad he did and we are doing so well now. It would have been sad to have lost what we have now. I know the loneliness while married is worse than being actually alone because at least then you are free to have a sit at finding someone that does make you feel loved and seen. I can’t tell you what to do but I can tell you that holding on to those marriage vows for dear life can be worth it. I’m so sorry you are experiencing this right now.

Is he depressed? Did any stressful event happen like a death, loss of a job, or anything he considers to be stressful? Sometimes that can impact their ability to be intimate or have energy to talk. My husband and I have been going through the same exact problem for the last couple of years after his dad passed away. It is possible to get out of this and we are on the mends but they also have to be willing to put in the work.

@Roya He takes care of our little one while working from home while I go out and work. He had to give up what he liked doing to be home. He said he wanted too when we had the initial talk but it seems like it is getting to him because he is the guy in the relationship and should be out there working. He is depressed and he has voiced that to me before but I’m also going through depression and trying to push through. I’m making an effort. It sucks.