Advice!! Miscarriage!!!

I’m so sorry for your loss, I too experienced a miscarriage at 18 weeks. They wanted to do a a surgical procedure but opted for a natural birth, they put 3 pills near my cervix and I was able to pass the baby. I preferred that cause I wanted to hold my baby and say goodbye, I wouldn’t imagine a vacuum pulling her out. It was traumatic and very painful but they say that carrying your baby and saying goodbye helps with the grief. I suggest you do what feels best for you. Rest up afterwards and talk about it to a professional so that you can feel better. So sorry this is happening 😔

The surgical route is a dilation and curettage (d&c) They essentially use a suction device to remove any tissue left in the uterus. You can be put under for it and they often prefer to it that way. You may feel period like cramping afterwards and have some bleeding like a normal/slightly heavier period. I'm sorry for your loss, there are no words. And I'm sorry you're having to go through the physical side for so long. I was worried when they told me surgical route but it isn't as bad as you would think. Take care of yourself the following couple of days xx

@Marlenny I’m so sorry for your loss too! Thank you for replying to me! I am 100% talking out my feelings as it really helps me to do so! It’s just the long process of being told 5 weeks ago that my baby had no heart beat to now having to have surgery that I can’t get my head around but I will definitely talk it out! And I appreciate you writing on my post! So thank you so much x

@Tammy I’m sorry for your loss too :( thank you for the information! That’s put my mind at ease a little! They offered for me to have another round of medical management but as I said it’s been 5 weeks already (I’m not the most patient of people) and the medical management didn’t work so that’s why I’ve agreed to the surgical! I just wanted to know really what the surgery was and how you are after it so I appreciate your comment lovely thank you so much! they’ve put me down for surgery on Friday I’m just waiting to speak to the doctor about it in more detail xx

@Steph awww bless you x It does sound scary when they say surgery. And i agree 5 weeks is a long time to wait xx especially when you want to start healing and processing x Hope all goes as well as it can. Literally book yourself some time off afterwards at least a couple days xx

@Tammy yeah it’s the idea of surgery I’m a really bad over-thinker which doesn’t help! How long did they say to you for physical healing after the surgery that’s a question I didn’t think of to ask! And I will do thank you so much xx

@Steph I think they said a couple of weeks, don't lift anything too heavy and no sex, mine was a long time ago xx

I'm so sorry that is a really difficult place to be ❤️ I had a miscarriage that stopped growing at 9 weeks and ended up needing to go the surgery route since I had developed an infection, I will say that once I got out of surgery I had a pretty easy recovery, it was better than the miscarriage I passed on my own as far as time spent recovering. It was uncomfortable but really not so bad, I rested in bed a few days and then in a week I felt physically back to normal