Scared - does marriage counseling even help?
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I feel you, and I’ve found that the abuse only professes with time, the fights get uglier, happens in front of the kids. Stuck bc they’re overly narcissistic and think u came with remote? lol. I’m still planning how to get out, just don’t let it beat you down keep carnelian black tourmaline and amethyst on u as well to help with the negativity, protection, and anxiety issues
It works if you BOTH are on board. We tried marriage counseling, after the first session I realized this wasn’t it for me anymore. Second session I kinda lost it/broke down and she suggested individual therapy, and I told her I agree because this is over.
I believe it helped even though I ended up divorced. It gave me confidence in my decision to go. My ex also made the decision to continue individual therapy after I asked for our divorce. The marriage counselor had encouraged him to do this multiple times in the 10 months we saw him.
You might want to read up on different forms of abuse if you haven’t done that before. There are a lot of different kinds of emotional abuse, including verbal, psychological, financial, narcissistic, sexual and more. I’ve been learning about this stuff for years now and the consensus among all the therapists I’ve heard from is that marriage counseling will NOT work if you’re being abused. The other partner may actually use the counseling sessions to extract information to use against you in the future, or to gaslight the therapist. Protect yourself and your baby first and foremost. Safety is a basic need and every human being is entitled to e safe in their own homes. ❤️
Sorry you are going through this. I just received our consent order today and my LO is 15 weeks. I initiated the process in March. It's good you're considering counselling, I wish we had tried that but circumstances made it impossible. If there is still any love there then it's worth not throwing it away. Something I wish id done was a trial separation. Or to have paused divorce proceedings and thought long and hard, as the fall out has been worse than I ever anticipated