I feel you, and I’ve found that the abuse only professes with time, the fights get uglier, happens in front of the kids. Stuck bc they’re overly narcissistic and think u came with remote? lol. I’m still planning how to get out, just don’t let it beat you down keep carnelian black tourmaline and amethyst on u as well to help with the negativity, protection, and anxiety issues
It works if you BOTH are on board. We tried marriage counseling, after the first session I realized this wasn’t it for me anymore. Second session I kinda lost it/broke down and she suggested individual therapy, and I told her I agree because this is over.
I believe it helped even though I ended up divorced. It gave me confidence in my decision to go. My ex also made the decision to continue individual therapy after I asked for our divorce. The marriage counselor had encouraged him to do this multiple times in the 10 months we saw him.
Sorry you are going through this. I just received our consent order today and my LO is 15 weeks. I initiated the process in March. It's good you're considering counselling, I wish we had tried that but circumstances made it impossible. If there is still any love there then it's worth not throwing it away. Something I wish id done was a trial separation. Or to have paused divorce proceedings and thought long and hard, as the fall out has been worse than I ever anticipated