Not potty trained

My little girl is 3 in January and although she’s shown some signs of potty training she just doesn’t want to sit on potty or toilet! I figured there’s no point forcing it as I think it’ll take longer! It has been stressing me a little as feel like I’m failing! Even though she’s amazing at so many other things you can’t help but feel it! Today my partner took her to docs with suspected uti and triage woman (before seen the doc) said you’ll have to get a urine sample from potty. My partner said she’s not using the potty quite yet…. To which she replied I mean she’s almost 3 in such a judgy way! What the hell?! It’s made me furious! I feel I’ve failed her but also same time such rage that she’s judging that! When we went to visit nursery she’ll be starting at 3 they said kids come to them all the time not potty trained at 3 quite yet and obvs they deal with kids all the time! Am I over reacting or is that a shitty comment from someone working in doctors?!

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That's really unprofessional! I haven't even started with my boy yet as he's just showing no signs of being ready. I'm going to try and start when he turns 3. Every child is different so I really wouldn't worry xx

I wouldn’t worry, once she’s ready, she’ll pick it up really quickly! One thing that helped with mine is to go shopping for knickers and let her pick them herself. Good luck!

My son isn't anywhere close either, try not to let it worry you it was unprofessional and it's absolutely not unusual for a 3 year old to not be trained yet! X

My girl doesn't go and is not interested at all, and also my 2 boys started only after 3yo and on the day started to use potty and no nappy at night, so I'm chilled this time. But the rude nurse is next level, so sorry she said that, you haven't done anything wrong 🥰

The person shouldn’t have said what they did, also you can test from a nappy that has a lining you add to it. A little like a sanitary pad we would use. My little boy isn’t there yet either, what I have done as some prep work is introduce pull up nappies and potty’s and placed one in bathroom and the other with the toys. Just so that it becomes part of the furniture. I have also made sure that I leave the toilet door open when I go and my partner so that he sees what we do. Again sees that we pull up and down trousers etc perhaps you could try something like this to help prep for nursery. See how she is bit by bit, then before you know it she will be sitting on it fine. My little boy has sat himself down fully clothed and I have given him a clap and well done to show that’s a good thing he is doing.

@Andrea hi lovely! She’s been on pull ups the best part of a year! We have a potty sitting around and tbh initially she was using it to stand on! Then she’d kinda sit on it but with the lid down! She comes to the toilet with us a lot to the point she’ll now when going upstairs with her dad say to me ‘2 mins just going for a pee’ because I sometimes say that to her! She showed an interest in us using toilet at first but now not so much! She knows when she’s done a poo and did for a little bit tell me but then stopped! I don’t think she understands the peeing quite yet! I’ve got a sticker book and reward chart! I’m just really waiting on her fully showing signs! I thought as she was pulling at her nappies this was another sign but then realised think she has a uti! X

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