Would you still be thinking over this?
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eventually she’ll come back again. It’s put our relationship on the rocks abit I feel guarded. He said that back then if she’d have written that letter then he would have potentially given it a go with her! I felt sick and can’t get that out of my head.
The last bit of your post,that would break my heart, he should have reassured you especially after you’ve flipped about being second choice.
Wow fuckkkkkk. He has NO balls and he is low key inviting you to leave so he can be with her. But he's too much of a coward to admit it and leave you. He definitely feels like he settled for you though. Do you have kids together?
@Rallii thanks for commenting I appreciate that. It’s really hard to get over those words, I struggled the days after and I felt I was stopping some sort of long lost love situation from coming together. I feel perhaps I should have another conversation with him about it but it has been quite a few weeks since that happened and I wanted to get past it, but it keeps resurfacing in my head. We do have a child together and I’m keeping the peace I guess
My partner’s ex came to his place of work to beg for him back like this, while I was undergoing cancer treatment. He didn’t tell me for a long time. Some girls are just fucking insane batshit crazy. If you trust your man, try not to blame him for her insanity. Just to say I know what you’re going through and it’s horrible. X
@Ella sorry I missed your comment yes we have one child, she’s a toddler. We’ve been together 10 years so quite a long time without her intervening but to pop up like that would surely make any woman feel hurt/insecure etc and especially with what he said quite flippantly to me at the end of the conversation. I do think given the chance and she ended up moving back to near where we live he would be swayed when our child is older and that does not bode well for us for the future I can’t keep wondering and having that thought though. Hard to live in the present right now.
@Rhiannon oh that is dreadful. I’m glad he told you though in the end. I’m sorry you had that happen too and thank you. You still with him?
That letter would have went right in the trash can.
And why in the hell would he tell you that 🤦🏾♀️ I swear I would have slapped him silly. I couldn’t look at him the same. Hopefully if you’re feeling uncomfortable you do what makes you happy even if the decision is to move on.
@Keisha oh he burned it in the fire but we read a bit of it!
My thing is burning it in a fire like if my man is thinking that strongly about a letter that’s red flag..if someone truly doesn’t care they wouldn’t open it or would just throw it away etc
When he recieved the letter I knew it was from this ex as it stated where she lived so straight up it was from her he did open it and shook his head and was angry, told me he pity’d her and barely read it and burned it in the fire. Afterwards we spoke about it and I was so upset but reasonable but reason being that this one ex was sort of around the time me and him got together, by that I mean apparently just friends who spoke and text on the phone… BUT slight red flag to me was that she was still calling him his nickname she gave him even tho she was married and had kids herself. My husband had been divorced himself from Someone else for a year before we met. Now when we got together he said randomly to me ‘if you love two people at the same time always choose the second’ I flipped and was like I’m not effin second choice mate and he was so apologetic -we worked it out, she stopped calling etc fast forward to now and this happens. Now I’m debating what I’ve missed or whether