My son wants girl toys and it’s scaring the shit out of me LOL

It’s like dollhouses, I know it’s because his uncles/aunts (5-8 year olds) have them and he plays w them when he visits and the colors are more vibrant, but with the fucking generation today and my SIL it scares me she will try to tell him at his little ass age (2 years old) that maybe he was supposed to be a girl. What happened to reassuring your kids that they are just unique and can be boys who like pink? Why is everyone jumping straight to treating them like a girl. Im just terrified idk. I also have severe anxiety so im likely jumping to conclusions. I don’t care if later in life he tells me I’ll deal w it then but im just terrified as of rn when he’s a kid. Like would I get hate if my son who could be 5 eventually tells me he thinks he’s a girl and I try to reassure him of his gender? Like no baby it’s okay to like to do this at your age, I used to like to do boy thinks and I’m not a boy? WILL I GET HATE FIR THAT LIKE PLS this generation and society is SOOO fucking weird

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I don’t think he likes them bc he thinks he’s a girl, but the intrusive thoughts of things I’ll have to deal with and do and hear it scaring the shit out of me 😔

I think you should allow your child to be his unique self, pink is a color and your child is too young to think of gender norms. Embrace it mama!!

@Ludy he picked a firefighter house thing and he likes the truck and all that, I usually get him nicer clothes anyway and he has pink because of his dad. His dad loves pink so I’m trying to normalize it but I think I let TikTok get to me

It is scary the leaps some people have made for their young children who pick up a toy that is typical of the other gender. My youngest bro was born when I was 16 and I remember when he was little, probably like 4/5, he would tell my mom things like “I like your nail polish. When I’m a girl I’m going to have nail polish like that” things lk tht which she never blew out of proportion or played into. Just kind of let him say what he was saying knowing he didn’t understand the world or know how articulate. His favorite colors were pink or purple. Ffwd to years later, no parent pushing their own agenda on this child, he’s played sports and has been naturally gifted at every one he’s played, has had girlfriends and is a friendly personable young man who has his own quirky style, and he’s great! I think a lot of the ish going on is due to parents or other adults in a child’s life making more out of little things a child says and stearing/pressuring these impressionable minds into making it

a lifestyle or their identity. I used to think I was a boy when I was very small because my chest was flat. Kids just don’t understand things. I’m glad no one told me or my brother we were born in the wrong body and needed intervention. I suppose if I had concerns that someone was going to try to manipulate my child I would limit exposure. We definitely have friends in our circle who we no longer pursue contact with since having a child because we don’t want exposure to certain things

Noooo don’t get too in your head mama, my 2 y/o boy loves his cars and trucks but he still likes to play with his cousin’s barbies or baby dolls. He likes his toy toolkit but also likes the cooking toys and cleaning kit, doesn’t mean he’ll become a housewife though (not that I’d be upset if he does later on). Im just saying I think it’s important for their social and emotional development to play with a variety of toys and colors because THEY’RE KIDS!! I think m

@Amanda I used to think I was a boy as well, but because I had younger brothers and found girls pretty. Very scary thinking you’re born in the wrong body but my dad was able to tell me I just like things some boys like but it didn’t make me a girl. I hope I can do for my son what my dad did for me. I honestly just get in my head too much

I would set clear boundaries with SIL to not make such comments. Boys can play with dolls and still be boys. My brother wanted to dress as princess for one Halloween because me and my sister were one (he was maybe 4?). He played with dolls in order to play with us, just as we played with cars. We are all happy with our birth gender, because surprise, toys or colors do not determine your gender (which SIL obviously doesn’t know And my niece told me at age 6 or 7 that she wants to be a boy as a grown up, because for boys it’s normal to do sports like boxing. 7 years later she is happy as a girl and doing boxing They see things and copy until they find what they like. It’s ok and doesn’t mean anything And I actually deleted TikTok for this very reason. It had gotten to much for my mental health

Girl, just get a house and fill it with stuff he likes. I'm gonna get one for my stepson for his dinos lol