Ha! The last way your husband would describe his "manipulative some ball" of an ex who is dragging him through custody court is "the love of my life." You need to clean up your side of the street here. Work on seeing the lovable things about you. Work on your appearance, if it is bothering you. Even if his ex magically transformed into a decent person tomorrow, your husband would want the person who's been good the whole time.
@Bonny @Annie thank you for this. I needed it. I was there through that heartbreak he went through. I was going through the same and we found comfort in each other. So I know what his feelings were to her and he loved her unconditionally. She’s the one that ruined the relationship, he didn’t walk away .. so that triggers me too. When I left my ex I was completely done and didn’t even give it a second thought. It took a long time for him to heal from the things she did and she’s still going to this day just in a different manner. It doesn’t help that her and I are the complete opposite of each other as far as looks go (and me not being an evil manipulative slime ball). She’s petite blonde hair blue eyes with a big butt and I’m a tall rectangle with brown hair and brown eyes lol.
It sounds like he loves you, it really does. I really wouldn't worry about what he had with his ex, before you were together. It will drive you mad... some of the questions that you have may never be answered, you might never know..If he wanted to be with his ex I'm sure he would be. But as you said... She is a 'Manipulative slim ball' 😂... and guess what... your the one that has the 💍💍💍