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partner unhappy with pregnancy
For context, I’ve just found out I’m pregnant again, our son is 16 months old. My partner has a son and step daughter to a previous relationship who he sees regularly and pays maintenance for.
I told my partner 2 days ago that I’m pregnant, thinking he would be shocked but not necessarily unhappy. Boy was I wrong… we’ve barely spoken since and when we do he just keeps saying he’s scared and that he doesn’t know what he wants to do. I’m so terrified, I want this baby, I’ve always wanted 2 children, but I don’t want to go through this pregnancy with the fear that he wishes it wasn’t happening. How can I do that to myself or my baby…
What do I do? I’ve never felt heartbreak like this…
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Hey can we talk? I just wanted to ask and check in with you as Ive noticed we been a bit more distant lately? ^ just say this and go from there.. if he says nothing, just say you love him and that the baby thing is bothering you. Can we talk about it? Reference in about his parenting and the good qualities he has in mix with it all. X
Takes 2 to tango. If he wasn’t wanting a baby he should have: 1. Ensured he wore condoms on top of any birth control you are taking 2. Not engage in sexual intercourse 3. Get the procedure to not have children. All of the above should have been discussed with you prior too - so if he didn’t want kids you would be aware and be able to make an informed decision regarding your choice and your relationship. My partner and I split when I first got pregnant but I was led to believe I had very poor chance of getting pregnant - I did and he didn’t really want any more kids. I pointed out that if he was 100% set on not having more kids he should have had the procedure that doctors happily do to men.