Postpartum baby blues or just real fucking emotions?

Why do you feel they lied to you? A section would usually be needed for a medical reason, for either yourself or baby.

This must feel really horrible and have made your head a bit 🤯😶‍🌫️. Hearing from friends there's no emotion that's not normal after having a baby! I think it's so important to remember what you've just done for the past 9 months though, and what your body has just gone through too - it's nothing short of a miracle. You've grown and birthed (even if in a plan B way) a whole person and nobody can take that away from you. 😊 There are many consequences with medical intervention, but there are also many consequences with natural birth sometimes and we can never know what 'would have' happened. But you're both here safe. ♥️ You are mum and you are now in charge 💪🏾 Take it slow and take care of yourself.

I had a homebirth planned that ended up a 66 hour, full of interventions, traumatic birth so I know where you are coming from. I often regret getting pushed into things i didn't want but on the flip side I have am amazing LG and I am thankful everyday for her. You are so vulnerable while in labour and health care professionals can be very pushy. The first few weeks are hard with emotions, hormones, lack of sleep, sadly you can't change what happened and although it's hard you should know you did the best you could with the circumstances you faced. You have some incredible moments coming with your little one, mine is 12 weeks old and I rarely think about the birth now, I wouldn't do it again but that's for various reasons not just the birth. Things will get better and you will be able to accept what happened xx

They lied to you? What happened ?

I had an emergency c section and it was the best thing I ever did, she wasn’t coping with labour and needed out. I can also now be an advocate for sections in my family as I loved it and my labour and my family worriers so they now have piece of mind that it isn’t bad at all xx

I felt exactly the same in august when i had my girl. Had planned a home birth and ended up in emergency c section after they broke my waters in hospital and didnt give me fluids so i got dehydrated from vomiting, etc. a combination of awful things. I cried so much and every time i cried it felt like my guts were going to pour out, which made me want to cry even more. At home every thing was just as we left it during my home birth hours and it all broke my heart. Everyone said “at least you’re both healthy and well” and yes, ok, but that doesn’t negate the trauma and huge disappointment. Eventually after a couple of weeks of having my beautiful girl and the enormous support from my spouse and my mum, i started to feel a lot happier and stopped thinking about it so much. It still hurts but we may yet get another chance. Sending hugs x

I felt the same way and I ended up working with a postpartum therapist. I feel SO much better after working with her. Message me if you want her info, she takes insurance and I’m pretty sure she’s taking on new clients. I’m so sorry you experienced that 🧡

Yes this happened to my friend, your feelings are real and valid. I’m sorry they lied to you and that it didn’t go as you’d hoped. Everything is on your path so learn from the experience, and reclaim your power ❤️

As a mum of 3 who has had 3 very different birth experiences (all vaginla deliveries though) this is why I'm against having a birth "plan", as so often plans don't go to plan! After reading some of the heartbreaking stories for baby loss awareness week, I'm just happy my babies are here ❤️. Pls don't take this as me invalidating your feelings because I'm not, but I think sometimes we need to see the bigger picture. Although, you would probably benefit from some counselling sessions to process your feelings x

@Rebecca i was constantly very aware throughout my pregnancy that things could end up in a c section, that birth rarely goes to plan, etc, but nothing really prepares you for how unfair things can be and how traumatic it can be when you think things could have gone differently if it wasn’t for X and Y, even when everyone is nice and everything seemed fine. It doesnt matter whether you made a plan or not.

How were you lied to? I’m sorry you feel robbed of the experience, but how your child comes into the world does not matter as long as they are born with air in their lungs. Try not to beat yourself up, it does sound like postpartum blues, i felt the same after my emergency c-section, even though i wanted a c in the first place! The hormones are crazy but, If you truly feel you were deceived, take it further and open an enquiry.