Wanting to reach out

Is it a bad thing that I wanna reach out to my child’s father? He hasn’t been an art of her life since she was two months old and hasn’t even tried to reach out at all. I feel like she shouldn’t have to suffer because he feels a way about me having no choice but to put him on child support smh. I’m stuck between wanting to at least try and just saying f*** it and keep moving on with my life. I want her to know her dad but I also don’t wanna force someone to be there that possibly doesn’t want to. I don’t know what to do or what to think. I can’t ask my sisters because they don’t like him. So I just need some unbiased advice on this matter..

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Don’t force it , he knows he has a child 🤷🏾‍♀️

I cannot imagine it’ll be easy for you if you reach out and do not get the response you’re hoping for.. the reality is he’s choosing to not actively be in your baby’s life and you and her deserve so much better, him not reaching out is enough reason for you to keep it moving and nurturing the relationships you already have that are active in your lives and if you are open to it, you can always find a better man that’ll step up for the both of you. xx

Thank you ladies I just don’t wanna regret it later when she grows up and starts to ask where her dad is at. She had her pop pop and god dad in her life but when she starts to ask about her bio dad idk how imma tell her. I’m just tryna make sure I’m thinking about her feelings opposed to mines bc quite frankly I could care less about the man but I don’t want my feelings to interfere with her getting to know her dad but I think his feelings is getting on the way of him knowing his daughter smh

I say reach out one last time and his response will tell it all👍🏽 and when she’s old enough just tell her the truth.

@Neveah this is what I would say too. Give him the chance but you are not responsible for his actions. If he chooses to stay away then that’s on him and your daughter deserves to know the truth when the time comes.

Those regrets will be his, not yours. You are a fantastic mother by simply caring this much about it. When the time comes and she has questions, be ready to answer them. If she wants to try to reach out, be ready to help. But it’s not your responsibility to make him be a dad, that is all his. That guilt and regret should be his alone. He knows how to reach you. I’m currently pregnant and I keep going to text him updates and I remind myself, if he wants them, he will ask for them. I wrote it down at my desk, and I have a note on my fridge. I read it out loud to myself when I feel weak. Don’t let his regrets and his lack of responsibility be yours. Just do your best and your little one will know you did.

No I'd not bother. Speaking from experience.. I did it and now I've got hell from a narcissistic father. He knows he has a child. She's still little things could change.

No. If he wanted to he would. He’s telling you how he feels about her. She would suffer more having to be forced to be around a man who doesn’t want to be there