Leaving baby with dad or family
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We are ebf too and its similar here! I was the same with my first born who wasn’t breastfed too, it just feels wrong being away, he’s now 2 and I’d say I now feel better about other people looking after him but I’m not sure if thats because I’ve got my baby too, but its taken until 2 years to trust family to take care of my precious cargo! But i do know other mums who’ve given baby from birth to grandparents to look after so she can gym and things, everyone is different! I normally say, I had a baby because I wanted a baby to look after I didn’t have a baby for some one else to raise, and yes sometimes a break would be nice but one day in the future baby won’t need me as much and thats when I will be booking a spa day!
I've only left my baby a handful of times, not by choice. It's just I don't feel I can ask people to look after her. If they ask I metaphorically chuck her at them and run like the wind away. But I exclusively pump, I can leave a whole days worth of feed, go out with my pump and dump milk all day as I'm lucky enough to have 3 full days worth of milk in the fridge and 3 weeks worth in the freezer. So I just bottle it up and hand her over. I do keep subtly making it known I hit burn out months ago but no ones really noticed. I see family weekly but non of them go ah would you like us to take her on x date. Because I will not ask them to (anxiety is not fun and mines not logical, i dont like asking for help)
I went to Spain for a few days when she was 15 weeks and again when she was 20 weeks. She was with her dad and grandparents. I’ve done things like Kylie, a day retreat, birthdays, medical appointments. Baby has been fine. Dentist was when she was 3 weeks old and she was with my mum. I just started it early so she’s always been very comfortable with anyone tbh. I’m an older mum if that makes a difference and a mental health practitioner so know that my wellbeing is very important.
I’m completely the same, my LG is EBF and the longest I’ve left her is an hour and that’s with her father. I’m nowhere near ready to leave her with anyone else. Your thoughts and feelings are justified, don’t feel pressured to do anything you’re not comfortable with. You’ll know when you’re ready, that’s what I’m doing x
Mine turns 6 months tomo and I’ve only ever left her with her Dad for a few hours at a time. I intend to leave her with my mum soon when I go out for a 70th birthday lunch. But will be regularly checking in and most of which she will be napping. I think do things when you’re ready.
My daughter is nearby 7 months and I haven’t properly left her. Sometimes my mum will come watch her so I can nap, but that’s it! X
I’ve never left my 6m old with anyone else except her dad and it’s rare. We also have a 3 year old that’s not stayed anywhere else or been left with family/friend except from on 2 occasions. It’s just not something we’re bothered about. X
My lb is just over 6 months and I’ve left him alone with family/dad a handful of times, for only a couple of hours at most x
I haven’t left my baby boy at all, apart from dad and that was only to get my hair done. I absolutely adore being with him and treasuring every moment before he’s bigger.
You are absolutely normal! They rely on us so much when they’re little! I haven’t been away from my 6 month old for more than 15 minutes, and I have done that 3 times (to collect take out!) I have a massage booked for next week so Dad will have him for over an hour for the first time. Not sure who’s more nervous 😂
You are absolutely normal!! I wouldn't worry about what your friend was doing. I've only ever left my baby with their Dad so far. We are also EBF so it's always 2-3 hours max and deffo not daily but more likely twice a week. There is no need for anyone else to care for her just yet in my opinion.