Partners wanking?

I personally don’t see a problem with it because they aren’t cheating. However, if they have the energy to do that then I would say question how much energy are they pitting into you and the baby because the first few weeks are exhausting for both mom and dad equally if they’re fully engaged.

For me, I know he has his needs and I have mine. I'm totally fine with him satisfying himself, especially if I'm not "in the mood"

Nope I don’t like it, why not kill two birds with one stone and pleasure us both? And what’s he wanking to? If it’s another female then that to me is disrespectful asf. Nobody come at me because that’s our boundaries, if he feels the need to get pleasure from another female then he can leave.

I’m with you on this. I can’t stand it, what does he wank to that he can’t get from me, it really winds me up. I’ve caught my partner doing it to individual women on twitter and even caught him paying for onlyfans which in my eyes is when it becomes cheating. That is just my boundaries and I won’t listen to anyone who tries to tell me otherwise. It’s downright disrespectful.

I think everyone’s allowed to masturbate & at a healthy rate. It’s just weird & problematic when they refuse sex with their partner and opt to masturbating only. And obviously the content they’re consuming

I personally don’t care my partner doesn’t do it but he’s knows if he wants to I wouldn’t have a problem with it. For me, I have a vibrator still even though I’m in a relationship. Sometimes sex is too much work and you want quick relief but I still love and value my boyfriend very much

Masturbation is normal and healthy, even in relationships. I would try and work out why it bothers you. Do you usually have a good sex life? Are you still intimate? Is it the fact he is/might be watching porn? Sometimes people just need time to themselves and don't want to involve another person and that's okay.

I’d be bothered. I would if he was watching porn, refusing me sex and doing it with me home. Think it’s disrespectful and you can have a bit of self control and wait in my opinion. I don’t masterbate when my boyfriend is at work, I wait until we are intimate.

It doesn’t bother me in the slightest but at the same time I don’t want to know about it or see it so if I kept ‘catching’ him doing it I would ask if he could be more considerate. I have no idea if my husband does or not but I would assume he probably does, what he does in his private time is none of my business.

I don't see a problem with it tbh and never have done. If me and my husband can't be intimate for whatever reason (working nights, not home etc) and he's in the mood, I'd much rather he do that than go elsewhere. I've had an episiotomy during my labour so no sex until the gp check up and that's healed and have told my husband if he needs to sort himself out whilst we wait, I have no problem with that as I get he has needs

I’d also like to say if people either say they do or don’t have a problem with this at the end of the day it doesn’t matter. It’s all about your relationship, your own boundaries and how you feel individually! If you feel upset by it it’s completely valid 🤍

I personally don’t agree with it while you have a partner. If you have to go without due to having his child. Then so should he. Also. Where does his mind go thinking of others? Watching porn. In my opinion it’s cheating and everyone has different opinions and views on what they think cheating is and no1 should be criticised for what boundaries they have. You should speak to him about it and if he respects you and your boundaries he will wait until you both are ready.