Cheating while pregnant?

So I found out that my partner had been messaging his ex back in February while I was around 20 weeks pregnant. She told me he had been messaging her at the start of my pregnancy and it continued up until she told me. She showed me proof. She knew I was pregnant and with him too (she’s 19, hes 20 and I’m 22) I put her failure to tell me down to her age. He was messaging her the most disgusting things begging her for sex and telling her he doesn’t feel sexually attracted to me Ever since finding out I’ve been very up and down with my feelings about him. I’m really struggling to get over it even till now (I’m 3 months pp) He hasn’t done anything else (that I know of) since then but I just can’t shake this feeling. He’s been so good and always apologises for it and has changed as far as I can see but I just feel so hurt by it still. I feel I can’t get over this and I want to get over it because of our baby girl. I don’t want to raise her in a broken home, I think the thought of that hurts me more than what he did. Has anyone been through something similar? If so how the f do I get over this? It’s been months and I still find myself stalking this girl constantly comparing myself to her and I just have all this hate and resentment in me for them both. It’s gotten to the point where he keeps telling me I need to let it go. He wants us to get married in December (in Islam) but I’m scared to tell him I’m not ready and I lowkey don’t want to do it because what if he leaves me? We’ve tried breaking up as-well but that hurts even more I just feel so powerless. Wtf do I even do

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Give yourself a break, considering he will do this whilst your pregnant with his child is a major 🚩 Would he have continued if you didn’t find out ? I think so Would he have gone further if she allowed ? Probably Are they both immature ? Yes Wants to marry you but shows you disrespect , did he want to marry you before the baby came ? Sounds like he wants to keep you close so he doesn’t embarrass his family. Is he a good dad ? Like more than the basics ? Sometimes we waste time on a boyfriend, worried about the what if’s , when our husband is out there somewhere who will treat you and your little one with respect X

Girl this happened to me but I let it slide because I was pregnant with my little girl, for it to happen again on several different occasions after I had my baby, wasn’t only just one girl each time either it was a handful of different girls each time!! I constantly overthink it even to this day, I don’t know if the feeling ever rlly goes away to be brutally honest, you just slowly overtime just think about it less & less but then when u remind yourself of it it takes over your brain & moods all over again😢😢if your ever looking for a mum friend or a chat at any time I got u girl💕I’ve been in the same boat so no judgement ever xxx

This has happened with me we have broken up it’s been about 2 months best thing I ever done. When I wasnt pregnant I forgiven him ( he cheated 3 times) when I was pregnant I forgiven him (he cheated 4 times) but after having my lg I forgiven him about 3 times before I thought your doing it to our baby now I don’t want her to grow up thinking it’s okay to accept being cheated on when she’s a young woman.

I’d dump him. I don’t think this is a good idea. You are only young and you will have the energy in due course to push forward.

I know it’s easier said than done but girl leave!! No way on earth would I ever tolerate this ESPECIALLY whilst pregnant. You have a child with a boy that thinks it’s okay to lie and cheat what kind of example is that going to set for your child 😢 don’t ever settle for less than you deserve it will be the best decision you ever make it might not feel like it now but you are clearly to good for him. Your child is going to grow up in a broken home if you stay because as much as you try to forget about it you never ever will and it will always cause problems

I know it’s incognito but it’s better if we talk privately ❤️ I fully understand how you feel 🫠

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