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So me and my spouse got into an argument today. He’s the step dad. I gave him permission to go watch pen because I got hungry do to bring possibly pregnant. I was like ooh good you had finished you know I’m glad. What did you watch. He said hentai I searched up videos today and all that pops up is transgender. I confronted him just nicely do to him not feeling open to trusting me enough to tell me. He then said he actually watched a female with a pink top that was just barely legal. That made it worse for me because I’m older than him by a year. On top of him saying watching stuff like that he was just curious and didn’t watch it that is for weak men and he’s not one. He snapped at me all because I said I don’t like lies. He thinks of it as lien over candy. Idk what my next steps should be. If it’s just a little fight I can get over or if I should just try to go do things alone. I feel so sick that he felt the need he needed to lie. I’m a Scorpio I really can’t handle lies. He literally told me this is why he hates relationships. I said I just wanted honesty. He said he just wanted a matured woman. … What would y’all do in the situation.

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So before I answer (I am a Scorpio too btw.) he got mad because you looked at the search history and found he was watching transgender people and a young girl? What made you search?

@Ashley-monet it’s on my phone he looked at the stuff I went to search it up to see if I could do something for myself with what he watched as a connection way. But yeah… we forgave each other but it’s still like why do you think it’s such a little lie. I’m older but he stated he didn’t watch them that he watched a video of a 18 year old.

Okay. Thanks for clarifying. It is still gonna bug you because we are so big honesty. But if he isn’t willing to talk it out and continues to be defensive about it then it may cause issues down the line. In my opinion him being defensive is a bit weird if you only asked one question. Let’s just say you seen something else he was watching and it made you more uncomfortable is he gonna think of that as “lieing over candy”? In my opinion I wouldn’t dismiss it just yet, voice your concerns and stand firm about how it all made you feel so it won’t happen again.

@Ashley-monet true I’ll talk to him later about it when he’s home. If he’s says something like he’s had a rough day and such and he don’t wanna talk about it I might just have to do my own thing. That would be his way of pushing it away.

Oh yeah. Definitely wait until he is in good space to talk. No pressure, but it definitely needs to be addressed

Yeah because the way he fully spoke to me wasn’t grand at all. Lately he’s already been distant and says it’s because he feels like a failure. But yeah