Advice

Hey Mamas, I need some advice. So me and my child’s father pretty much been in a good space for quite some time now. I noticed a difference in communication around Mother’s Day when he told me “Happy Mother’s Day” for the first time since before our daughter was born and I was pregnant. The second line of communication started when it was my birthday, that was July and he told me Happy Birthday. Since then, our communication has been more unrelated about our daughter. In August, he started asking when he’s gonna come inside our home and everything and I keep denying it. Because since we currently moved, I haven’t let nobody know where we stay. I’m usually not the type that like to entertain anything from my past as it brings up old feelings and bring me back in a place I don’t like to be, but idk something about me just been wanting to give it another “try”. But sometimes I feel like I just entertain the situation because I’m bored. In late September we had unprotected sex, and we also did early this month. Since the last time I been feeling a little different because I been trying to build my relationship with God. And I feel like entertaining this situation is doing nothing but drawing my further away from him. Like I don’t feel myself. So I took it upon myself one day to ask him what was his intentions with me and he said to date me again… yall he hasn’t even been paying his child support since June, so not let me even go there lol. But last night I asked him again and pretty much he said he wants to date me again but yall he’s not doing anything to show me that he wants to. So at this point it’s been twice since I asked, I’m not asking again. I’ve literally been through this with him when we first started dated and after I had my daughter and I don’t want to go through this again. I’m expecting him to take me out on a date, I’m expecting him to try to get to know the new me… ask questions, spend time, but he’s not doing none of that. He keeps asking to come inside of where we stay but I’m not comfortable with that yet. At this point, if I point my mind in a place where I say “I’m done”, then I will completely stop entertaining the situation, but I want to say I’m done putting that expectation on him and just gone see what he gone do. Because his communication is diminishing and at first it was me that wasn’t really responding… now it’s him because of all of life’s responsibilities that he has going on. Anyways y’all, in this situation what would you do? Because I’m trying to be the best version of myself and dealing with uncertainty I hate that with all of my soul. I don’t like knowing what I’m going to expect from a person… I don’t like feeling like i don’t know where I stand with a person or if he’s even taking anything I’m saying seriously but I know I’m gonna fall back from all the request he ask of me (want me to send sexual pictures, and do sexual things with him like have sex), when he can’t even show me he’s trying to pursue me. I feel like everything is only sexual and that’s what’s bothering me. It’s more to a relationship, it’s more to getting to know a person than just getting in their pants. And that’s what’s bothering me about him. I’m trying to be nice but I’m not about to be taken advantage of. I know this post is long lol, but if any of you mamas have any advice I would gladly appreciate it. I’m tired of stressing myself out about this.