My husband had a kid

Pack your bags and run

Thank you that’s what I think too to do all this behind my back

If everything was innocent he would be happy for you to come along with him. He would actually encourage the idea so that you do not feel insecure.

@Steph yes I agree if is just about meeting his child he can let me go with him I am his step mother

You’re not comfortable or happy. Hes not been open with you. Run girl . You deserve better x

Why was his son in Africa if the mum was in Australia, and why would the mum and son not move to your state if they came back for him to meet his son and to foster that relationship? I would have an honest conversation with your partner and tell him that him refusing to involve you is upsetting to you and makes you feel uncomfortable. That you need to know, and you need him to prove that this isn't him rekindling things with his ex and that this is just about meeting his son. Tell him it's weird not to include you, and you deserve an explanation. Then be prepared to leave should you not like his answers, feel he is truly being deceitful or if things don't improve.

@Hannah he said that his ex Got married and travel to her husband and left the kid with grandma The worse part is that he didn’t let me know about the whole process he been doing it with his ex now the kid is here and he don’t even want me to go with him to meet him if it was just about the kid he should let me travel with him to meet the child

I would definitely not be there when he comes back. Pack your bags, run, and clean out all the accounts. Anything you guys have with both of yall names on it together....dissolve it immediately! I look forward to reading the updates on this one.

So, did she abandon her child? Or was she just visiting her new husband? Has her husband come with them to the US? Has she moved back or just staying temporarily? Have you told your husband how this is making you feel?

@Hannah the baby mom got married when the child was about 3 years old and she travelled with her husband here in USA and left her son in Africa with his grandmother and my husband came in USA 4 years ago when he got here the baby mom drama started but me I thought that she was in Australia all this while I be with my husband 3 years and he never mention that the baby mom is in USA so now he just told me that the baby and the baby mom are both in USA they are in USA to stay. I told my husband how I feel but he doent care and he doent want me to go with him. He doesn’t even want to talk about it

She left her son for 12 years and then just brought him back with her now? That kid is going to have issues, and this baby mum sounds like a piece of trash. Leave your husband and this whole mess. OP. Just leave.

Yes she left the kid for 12 years and now she went back and got the kid here in USA now my husband wants to travel to meet them for 4 days without me . He said that he going there for the kid but I don’t think so if it was for the son he should let me go with him to meet him as well he didn’t even give me a notice that his son will be in USA he just said that my son is here and I am going to see him on Friday just like that

Again, nothing about any of this is OK, and you need to leave. This woman abandoned her son for 12 years, then yanked him from the only home and country he's ever known to drag him back to the USA to meet the father she denied him for 15 years. She is vile, and child abandonment is a crime. Run, don't walk. You don't need this mess of a situation. My heart breaks for that kid.

@Hannah thank you very much I have decided that if he goes there without me I am leaving him. The same day he will travel to see them that’s the same day I will leave his house

I'm sorry you are dealing with this OP, it truly isn't fair ❤️

@Hannah thank you