Someone you’re romantically interested has NO friends
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I'm a loner, I have one friend. But for many years I went about life with acquaintances never really getting close to anyone. It's kind of a red flag. If they don't have friends they are a different kind of special let me tell you. Lol Speaking from personal experience.
It depends? Have they never had friends? Like ever? Did they just have a falling out with someone? Idk, not a fan of the red flag/green flag label maybe cause I’m a red flag queen, but hey I must be worth it cause I’m married lol.
That's a red flag. If you have zero friends.... That means they don't engage in sports- I would think they are criminals or psychopaths. Or a online stream gamer or something.
Means he’s a homebody/introvert stays home a lot/only works, doesn’t have any outside interests or hobbies coz if he did he would’ve made friends from there. No friends from high school? College/uni, work? Huge red flag for me. Because it means if I date him he’s probably not even wanna go out anywhere and stay home if he’s an introvert and I can’t date an introvert - ambivert, yes. Someone who’s 50/50 but able to be social when needed. Not true homebody/introvert who only has online friends lol. And i don’t want someone who relies 100% of his happiness on me because that usually = clingy and I can’t do clingy.
100% red flag. And strange af. I’ve been there before and would never again
@Raven not engaging in sports is a dream to some of us lol
None at all? Maybe not a bestie but no one at all they talk to? A little weird..I get being introverted but even introverts have friends.
You can make new couple friends while dating. Its ok to not have friends at all because too many people are fake. Not everyone wants to tolerate fake conversations and relationships. It doesnt mean he will not go out with you. People are in denial if they think everyone they call a friend is a ride and die. Most of them will delete you off and never look back. If hes a great conversationalist and engages in similar interests or compromises... whats the issue here?
My husband has no friends. He’s just friends with all my friends 🤷🏻♀️ In the almost 9 years we’ve been together, he’s hung out with like, 2 dudes from work once.
Having no friends and having too many friends are both red flags bc what do you mean… I’ve been with people also with the right number of friends but the people be trash. I don’t know if any of it is really a red flag until you meet the people they “know”
For me that would be a red flag. I’m a very social person.
My ex had literally 1 friend who was an alcoholic and took drugs and he turned out to be a narcissist and majorly controlling, I also hear rumours that hes now gay! X
For those who say red flag, is it still a red flag if he doesn't have friends but is really close to his siblings or cousins?
@Kylie meh I guess not I forgot about big families But for this hypothetical scenario they don’t fuck with relatives either. 🤣
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I would say it depends : if he is very close to his family, like best friend are his brother or cousin, it isn’t a red flag. If he has a good reason : 1 best friend for long who betrayed him for example and now he feels like he can’t find again the same relationship ? Also depends on his age and backstory ! I mean my father is a piece of shit and he had friends 😂 so well … And my sister didn’t had real friends for quite a time, because she has trust issues because of my father and introvert. Now it is getting better but she is 20 and she is absolutely not a red flag ! And ofc she is very close to me and my brothers, so we are like her best friends 🥰
Technically my oh doesn’t have friends. The ones he does live four hours away and he slowly stopped seeing them when my son was born. He is a sociable person and is friendly with people from work (one feeds our cats). He just hates going out and doesn’t have the energy for it. I think some men do get less social as they get older.
@Violeta💕 are you from balkans?
Idk. I think that's not fair. The amount of polls I've seen on here about whether you have any friends and a lot of mums vote no. So does that mean no one should ever date them because they're "a red flag"? My husband doesn't really have friends. He moved countries so he left all his old friends behind. Then we moved cities and we both left our friends behind. I have made some new new friends but he hasn't. He has people he's friendly with at work but he doesn't play sports and they all do. Unless you play footy and like to smash a carton of beer every Saturday, you can't really join the friendship group in a small town. It's also hard breaking into friendship circles when everyone else grew up together.
It's not a red flag. I used to have a big group of friends, I got post natal depression after having my little girl and lost a few then when my mum was killed I lost the rest other than two, one who I just drifted from because she moved away and I realised when I wasn't calling or texting I wasn't hearing from her so I just stopped and the other one got with a man who controls her and he was chipping people off one by one basically so now she has 1 friend who she met through him, but lost all her friends and family too. So that's why I have no friends. I don't see it as a red flag. If I'm not at work, I'm with my kids or other family so 🤷 I'm in a much better head space without the drama than I was then. Some people just don't have friends, doesn't mean it's a red flag lol
I'm that person. I don't care to have friends or social media and I don't even really like socializing with family either. I have never been unhappy being alone. My husband's closeness to his family was a green flag for me but I find them overstimulating too. I've always prioritized other people's happiness in relationships though. I know it's probably unnatural to prefer solitude but if everyone in the world suddenly died except my husband and children I don't think I'd mind
Social interaction is part of our nature though. I think it’s odd for people to prefer to be alone lol. We all need socialization and there’s an issue if you don’t want it
I can see why it would be different for people. For me personally, it would be a red flag. I’m very much an extrovert, enjoy hanging out with friends, my husbands friends, etc. I don’t think it necessarily makes them a bad person, we probably just wouldn’t get along and probably don’t have a lot in common.
So my man whom I've been with for almost 5 years and is the father of my two sons don't have friends at all. He genuinely hates people and don't like being outside for longer than needed but he is close to his family. He's mostly a loner and is mainly social when it comes to certain family events and vacations. I don't have friends either but I was never really the social type because kids picked on me for having a disability so I never got close with peers growing up.
@MimiGigi lol no, I'm from L.A California. ☺️
Neither me or my husband got friends left so I really don't care I rather have someone that is not in his phone 24/7, on social media and wasting his life away going out and drinking with friends. If he himself is not like weird and seems like a good person that like to keep to himself that's a huge turn on for me
@Violeta💕 sorry just your name sounds very Albanian. I know few Albanian with this name 💞
Would worry about it unless there’s other warning signs he’s not a nice person
@MimiGigi really, that's neat. I didn't know that. I'm Latin with Guatemalan and Mexican roots
@Violeta💕 oh interesting, very nice mix 🥰
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There was a poll on here recently asking how many people had no close friends and about 40% on here said they didn’t, so it seems a bit unfair that so many are saying it’s a red flag. Making and keeping friends as an adult is really hard, and there’s lots of legit un red flaggy reasons why.
@Lisa I understand it’s hard making friends as an adult, specially if you don’t work or you care for your children primarily. But there’s no distant friend? Someone you chat to? No desire? Some people don’t want friends and/or can’t keep them, and that’s the red flag
@Monét until you've been in the position where you have no friends yourself, you wouldn't understand. Not everyone has that person they can fall back on. Having no friends isn't a red flag. Plenty of other things are, but no friends isn't one of them.
@Kirsty I think I explained what exactly is the flag there and you did a lil skip jump over it
No, I didn't x
Not sure if the admin replied to this but.. what exactly do you mean by no friends?? Does he talk to people here and there but does not go out? If thats the case... thats a LOT of people in the real world. Dont believe the whole circle of friends online. A lot of them are just hang out friends and nothing more. No intellectual conversation is involved whatsoever.
@Monét but a lot of people who "dont" keep "friends" just cant tolerate disrespect and no effort? A lot of people are Fake. There are sooooo many pathetic liars that I have to literally LIE along to just not have drama. And many people would rather be alone find a romantic partner and not deal with the rest.
@Sngl so everyone is fake? Every friend ever lost was just a bad friend? Lol
@Sngl NO friends Sibling friends No cousin friends No aunty/uncle friends Noooooo friends Not a single soul that they’re close to
My husband is this way, it's not necessarily a red flag
@Asha has he ever mentioned WHY? Ive had many fall outs with my family, siblings, friends etc. We are all good now but there could be a reason. Also sometimes people do massive declutter in their lives and leave behind everyone. Including family.. maybe this is something you should ask.
@Monét unfortunately many are yes. Not everyone will make an effort. Not everyone values you the way you value them. Friendships varies in each culture country as well of course but canadian society majority of the time lacks social importance
@Sngl it’s hypothetical 🤣 personally I stay away from people with zero close people to them especially in a romantic scenario Men like that can have a tendency to isolate and abuse you
@Asha I’ve seen this happen to some of my friends
@Brittany right my exhusband tried to do that to me but I’m a very social person and i really go out of my way for community especially after having relied on community for my early adulthood I learned how to build my network and strong relationships that helped keep me safe If I didn’t have any friends that man would’ve truly crushed me
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yeah my abusive ex was also above having friends. And by the end of our relationship, I had to recover all the friendships I lost through him. And some never made it. It’s super worrisome to not want interactions with people who you are not obligated to see lol. It’s like not doing anything for entertainment. It is literally a basic need 🥲
I feel like I only have acquaintances so I don't think it'd be a red flag to me but I prefer to date people with friends so I can befriend their friends wife's and gfs