Mil comments about size
Each time I see my MIL she comments oh wow you’re huge. It’s always the use of the word huge. Every other person has said how small I am, and I believe I’m carrying very well and only weighing in at 67kg (started at 56kg) I’m 34 weeks. I suspect she is saying it to try and get a rise- any polite ways to shut her up? I do feel it’s personal as when her daughter was pregnant she kept saying things like you can’t even tell she’s pregnant! She looks great. 😡 the last time she said I was huge and do i think I’m bigger this time around? I said “I don’t think so, and you’re the only person that’s actually said that - I’m still weighing only 67kg” what else can I say to get her to be nicer about it? I’ve felt like I’ve had to try and hide my belly to avoid comments from her.
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I’d just be straight with her tbh. I’ve had these comments from people all through my pregnancy and at first I ignored them and just smiled along with it, and eventually I started telling people it made me uncomfortable for them to be commenting on my body and to please stop. Nine times out of ten I don’t think people are saying it to be cruel - there’s just this weird social norm we’ve all accepted that a pregnant woman’s body is everybody’s business. It might feel awkward to stand up for yourself in the moment but it doesn’t have to be a confrontation - you can be assertive without being aggressive!
Ugh I would fight her but also my MIL would never comment about my weight. Now my mom would and I would just tell her to shut up no one asked lol….idk how to be polite during pregnancy I swear I have no patience for anyone so usually everyone watches what they say which sounds kinda bad like I’m not intentionally mean but like if someone doesn’t have anything nice to say I will speak up. So props to you for trying to be polite! Maybe just laugh and be like yea gaining weight can happen when you carry a whole human especially for the second time and be like I think I look great! Or maybe say yes I’m creating a nice home for your grand-baby. My husband is a big guy pretty tall and his grandma sometimes makes comments about me being huge and I usually say have you seen your grandson? I’ve had several losses before our first daughter so comments about how someone looks or anything that’s not kind about pregnancy drives me crazy like your body is doing something amazing and not easy.