What would you do? Help!

My bd cheated on my multiple times throughout our relationship it destroyed our little family o forgave him time and time again but do you think he stopped? Ha no! Honestly it’s daunting raising a baby alone but there’s lots of support around you that you don’t realise you have, all I can say is get away now before he keeps doing it it’s really hard but you’ll get through it, if you genuinely feel like he’s sorry then maybe try again but if it happens again save yourself and get out before you start getting really hurt

Thank you so so much! Really good advice. He didn’t come to tell me, I caught him out. Which makes me think he’ll keep doing it x

Im sorry you are in this hotrible situation, especially while pregnant. Just to pose a few questions on the practical side of things that may help you decide but also the advice you get here. Does he already know you are pregnant? Does he want the child, too? Would he willingly, financially, contribute/support the child if you were separated? Are you guys married? Have a joint home? Are you working?

Thank you for the prompts. He knew I was pregnant from day dot. He was excited and claims still to be. He says he wants to be with me and wants to be a family with me. He said he cheated because he’s found it hard that I am dependant in him (I’ve been really ill during pregnancy) and still loves his ex. If we were separated I don’t know if he would be involved because I can’t trust a word he says. I do work, yes. I work for the nhs and have a very small wage x

We are not married and I own a house that he has moved into x

Oooof, sending support. I think being a single parent is daunting, but better than relying on someone unreliable. You'll be amazed at how adaptable we are and we make it work. I think maybe ask him to move out temporarily so you both get space and work on things, might be a reasonable step to figure stuff out with physical space if you can swing it. For me, infidelity would be a deal breaker, but also in love with ex, AND feeling so shaken by you needing him because you've had morning sicking? I'd be planning to be single even if you work on things for now, he gets that a baby will need him 24/7 right? I don't think I could trust him to step up, now he's shown you who he is. I'm going to be honest it'll be tough! And thankless sometimes but it's also wonderful and only you can know if the bond you feel is enough and if you want to be a parent. If it's a YES, you'll make it work. And the good news is you'll make a network of friends, new mums, and you'll help each other out in time. Soul searching time xxx

How can he be claiming he wants a family with you in one breathe and in love with his ex in another? This makes me so angry for you lovely! X

My feelings entirely! Thank you so much! I wasn’t sure how much was hormones and how much was me. I feel deeply hurt though and betrayed. I want to be a mum so bad but I also don’t want to be tired to him for the rest of my life in sone way x

I get that lovely xxx but I would say being a parent is for you. Then even being tied to him (although difficult in the aftermath) can get easier as children become more independent. And obviously how much he will be involved (or not). It's tough and not a situation you'd intentionally choose, but life happens and it's survivable, you'll find rhythm. x

My ex cheated on me about the same trimester with his ex also, we tried to make it work and he did it again. I wish I just left the first time, but my son brings me so much pride and joy. Luckily (kind of, not really) for me by Wednesday I should have an injunction against his dad for other unrelated things he’s done & I hope I don’t have to see him for a long long time. I genuinely wouldn’t change a thing.

Trust me, you can do it! For the first 18 months of my daughter's life I was in relationship, living together but I was still a single mother! I live in the UK but my family is in Czech republic, only support system I have is few friends, they won't babysit, but it's not that hard to find a babysitter, can get them online... You live in the UK, you work, you will get maternity pay and other help, yes it is hard but it's worth it, I will have another baby in 2026/27 that when I will be your age, it will be a donor baby so I will willingly be a single mum, because I am one already, it's better then taking betrayal like that! Good luck and you can message me if you want a chat

Yeah I was the same I caught him out multiple times, the time before I did last he swore on his own mothers grave and my daughters life he would change and nope caught him out again, I honestly would leave him don’t let yourself get distraught on a next level like I did

Kick him out. His reason is disgusting and obviously just a lie. He said he still loves his ex? She can have him. He just stabbed you in the back with the biggest knife possible. Once a cheat, always a cheat. He lied and hid things, do you want to spend every hour wondering if his words are the truth? I wouldn't. You can do it alone, you don't need a man to succeed. Many men make parenting harder anyway

Thank you so much for all the support, advice and for sharing your stories with me. It’s been so rough and I have started to believe what he’s been saying about it being my fault because I haven’t wanted intimacy in pregnancy and have been really poorly which has been hard for him. Thank you for helping me screw my head back on straight x