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Why would they be pictures of you on his card for his birthday?
I feel like if my MIL did this, she'd include pictures of me and him, or us with the kids, BUT I wouldn't be annoyed if she didn't 🤷🏻♀️
What were the photos of that she chose for it? EDIT: sorry I must have misread this - you clearly already answered this question😅 I think it’s fair enough for you to find it weird that she actively left you out of a group of photos of your husband and children. But would suggest just not reacting negatively. Try to laugh it off👍🏻If it makes her happy to do that, let her. Don’t let it have a negative effect on your family unit, by giving it more significance than it deserves.
I would be abit upset that I’m not in atleast one. I get it’s all about him but if the kids and pets are important enough to be on there then I should be aswell. I wouldn’t be upset to say anything as it’s his day but definitely be noted.
@Becky Why would there be photos of our children and all our pets on the card for his birthday. Might sound self-centred but when there are 11 photos going back 5 years of scrolling to find and not 1 picture of me it does make me feel some kind of way
@Heather Yeah I’ve not said anything to my husband or made a drama about it but it has made me feel a bit left out
Thats so petty. She needs to grow up.
If it’s just him and the kids I don’t think it’s that big of a deal if it’s him, the kids and only her absolutely none of you- that I feel is disrespectful…
I guess it'd depend on her typical behavior. If she has a pattern of not including you, then yes, I'd be upset. If this is like a one off thing, she usually includes you, and is generally kind/loving to you, I wouldn't think anything of it.
Just get more family photos up on the wall, with you all in them. Or if you can, try a professional family photo session - they don’t cost much sometimes, then often the deal is that you choose the photos you want and pay for them. Just an idea. Wouldn’t focus on the card, though I understand where you’re coming from. Don’t let it niggle at any insecurities.
@Grace There’s been a few issues and arguments especially this last year but I’ve always tried to keep things pleasant for the kids
@Rosa We have loads of lovely family photos- holidays together, various professional family photos which she’s chosen to not include
Don’t focus on the card. Stop trying to placate :) Just focus on your own family life. Glad you have all the photos up - just focus on them and your family. Don’t give attention to something that is going to make you feel miserable. As that in turn will have miserable consequences.
It’s worth a side eye for the petty points but I’d let it roll off my back. It stings more that way anyway. Don’t even let anyone see you sweat over something so juvenile.
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My MIL once made my husband and I an anniversary card which was a picture of him and our dog.
@Emma That’s crazy. Our anniversary in a few months so will see who’s on the card then 😬 Probably our entire family minus me again!
It depends on how many photos she has of you guys etc x
@Bekkah All 11 of the photos are ones she has got off my Facebook going back 5 years to when we got our cats. There are so many photos of us as a family on there x
I’d be secretly bummed but ultimately it’s not about you, it’s about MILs baby (and his baby because she’s so proud). On my partners bday his sister got him a card with just him and baby and she thanked *him* for bringing the baby into the world, lol. I know she didn’t mean to slight me and any offence was on me
Flip it - it’s her birthday and you’re doing a photo moonpig card. Do you put photos of you on it? We’ve literally just ordered one for my mother in laws birthday, with one lovely picture of her, FIL my husband and my daughter, not me.
@Charlotte surely by flipping it, you’d be giving your father-in-law a multi-photo card, with multiple people and just completely neglect to include any pictures of your mother-in-law in it?
@Rosa I meant purely to reverse the son/mother bit but sure.
Some mothers just have this weird thing going on with their sons.
This is petty. It’s his birthday. Of course it’s not going to have you on it.