Sex Life Post Baby

This is a tricky question as every situation is different. I used to feel the same about sex and realised that the reson I felt that way was because I felt disconnected from my partner and I also was frustrated as he was not spending much time with me and not helping me around the house, not complement me, just expecting it as if it is a duty kind of. So it is worth looking into that and have a serious talk. xx

Becoming parents is new routine in its self, then when life goes kinda back to normal as in your back at work and stuff it can be hard to find time when your not tired. I wouldn’t blame yourself because honestly I’m the same, I’m in bed most night for 8 because I’m tired (got a 2 year old and a 5 month old). Maybe a film night or a nice meal together will bring that connection back if your feeling distant from each other xx

Hunni, don't put urself down. It's a new way of life now. He needs to understand it's not how it used to be. There are times where I don't even want to think about it. We have had a deep discussion about it coz he kept asking. I said if it's been over a month please tell me and he is happy with that and we agreed to be honest with each other about it, like if I just don't want to or too tired etc. I've noticed an improvement for me was when I was taking multivitamins as I wasn't getting as ill so I was bit more awake. So I went on a different contraceptive pill which really helped xx

I started to feel like it was a chore. I had a baby, and then on top of that… I was working full time (from home) but still busy while being a full time mom and still expected to maintain the house (cleaning, dinner, laundry, pets) and I was exhausted because he lacked in helping when he came home from work (and even when he worked from home he didn’t help). He didn’t understand the load I had and it took forever to finally get that in his head even though I wanted to engage with him that I was just TOO tired, from doing everything In the house and then having to cater to meet physical needs was just hard when I barely had time to just breathe and be a person, or even shower 🤣 but we honestly had a lot more to do to reconnect than just have sex. We needed to talk and spend actual time together. Once he started helping a bit more, or understand that I just need a little more, our sex life became ALOT better. But I still have days where is just can’t and he gets to busy too.

But I just want to add, that if my boyfriend was bringing this up a lot it, I would really sit down with him and just you know set up what you guys expect from each other as it seems like his needs aren’t being met, but also realize you might have needs that aren’t being met as well to help you get there either. Or what you guys can do to spend time together as well. Having a kid (kids) is rough. It does change life and how your time is spend dramatically I really think it affects us women more but that’s just my opinion, I’m having baby #3, and I have no idea what our sex life will look like after this 🤣😅

I have an 8 year old, 2 year old and 3 month old. Husband works and I am a stay at home mum, who home educates our eldest. We schedule sex for a Saturday night. It doesn't always happen but that's what we aim for and when he's on annual leave or the Christmas holidays, we have sex more often. We are both knackered in the week and we sleep in separate rooms so he can get as much sleep as possible for work. It's just life.