Social services

I feel so heartbroken, my daughter (8) is being referred for ADHD bur I am more or less 100% sure she is. She struggles at bedtime to the point she hits, kicks screams the house down for 2 hours. I got a call from ss after an annoyomous referral saying that my partner is emotionally abusive and it always shouting at her. He has shouted once when she shouted that she wished I (mum) was dead. Thus upset oh as he has lost his dad so it was an emotional reaction. Ss closed the case within 2 hours after phoning school and us, closed as a malicious and no concern case. But I have been a mess since, scared to go out, scared to go to the school as they had the call. Everytime she has a meltdown at night I freeze in case someone is judging me. Is this sort of bedtime normal with ADHD? I am so new Anyone else had social service referrals? Please help a very scared and upset mummy!

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Please read this book on audible. I finished it in 1 day. It is fascinating and gives so much insight and tips for adhd! How Not to kill your adhd kid https://amzn.eu/d/aq5pQGb Ps. Bedtimes is a nightmare. Their brains are literally keeping them awake and they can't control their emotions so when bedtime doesn't have a strict routine or they are overwhelmed or overtired they can become aggressive and violent. My daughter can be horrible to me at bedtime I've thus now brought her bedtime fwd by 30mins and that seems to help most nights. Tonight, we were 35mins late and she scratched me down my chest, in purpose, so bad. It burned for a long time after. I left the room, not saying a word, and she passed out within minutes. Good luck mamma. The book wil really help you.

Oh I'm sorry to hear that, how old is your daughter. I can't leave the room she just comes storming out it is horrendous. I will look at the book thank you 😊

Mine is only 3 but ticking all the boxes and I have adhd too but I think she's alot worse than me. I've been told by her SEN teacher that I should sit with her in the room until she sleeps. I don't always want to as she hurts me so much but ultimately it helps with her falling asleep. You can also get melatonin gummies. But a big thing in the book is Rewards rewards rewards. For every single thing. Def listen to the book. Some great tips!

My daughter is 8 and is diagnosed ADHD & ODD - please, please take it from me I know it dosent feel like it, but I promise you things do get better. When you have your consultant appointment discuss all of this and there are things that can help with sleep - my daughter definitely grew out of the kicking off at bed times but my best friend who’s daughter is also ADHD decided to try melatonin (under consultant too) and they are a godsend for her (if that’s something you’d consider) but my daughter was struggling worse through the day, hitting me kicking me saying awful things to me, laying down in the street screaming and we did decide to go on daytime medication which has improved everything 100% - her grades at school are amazing compared to last year! Just keep a really good relationship with the school, they’re there to support you as well as your daughter. Speak to them and keep going your doing amazing mumma 🩷

Sounds like she is crashing at the end of the day. They hold it all in for the whole day & then it comes out like a storm once there are home & safe. Melatonin can be a big help in winding down.

Sounds like a very common symptom. It is so difficult and I am just heartbroken that someone has reported my oh. We always try to do our best with the tantrums but they just escalate. I will speak to the GP but I'm just heartbroken right now..

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