PP anxiety?

I need help PP anxiety.. it impacts self care stuff, my intimacy with my husband, and leaving the house. I’m a FTM, 1.5 weeks PP. I can’t seem to find time to make myself as presentable as my baby. I’m the type of person who loves having their hair, nails, lashes done. Since having the baby I have too much anxiety doing anything, I have fears of being able to keep up with it. My hair is extremely long and I love it, I’ve worked for years to grow it out but the anxiety is so bad I’m tempted to chop it off for ease sake, which I know I’d regret (I don’t look good with short hair my face isn’t the right shape)… but my hair gets knotted so it’s just been in a crappy braid since I came home and if I shower I just braid it again… the hair is just an example but I haven’t gone through my clothes since losing my baby weight (which I’m shedding like crazy because I forget to eat at times), done my lashes, etc even when I have time to I just don’t because of fear. Also I can’t find myself to feel comfortable being intimate with my husband either. Obviously within bounds of being PP.. but even making out with him is hard because I can’t stop thinking that it’s making me less available for my baby or waking her or something… Also I can’t get myself to leave the house. I have an awful fear of being under prepared or unable to calm her in the car as I’m driving or unable to calm her in public and unable to come home because of it…? Lots of what ifs in my head. I know it’s unrealistic to not leave the house but I do everything in my power not to… Am I the only one who has this problem?
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Do you mean 1.5 months pp?? Either way, you’re being so so hard on yourself!! However I completely understand & relate. I’ve also got very long hair & before baby I also had nails and lashes done regularly. I honestly felt so ugly in the few months after having baby and like I’d really let myself go 😢. I probably didn’t start getting these things done regularly again until 5/6 months pp. the time does come and you do eventually feel better again. As for leaving the house, the more you do it the more you do just get used to it and in the swing of it. By 4 months I was doing day trips to so many different cities with my LB. It’s just about building up confidence. I would highly suggest reaching out to your HV or GP to speak to someone regarding the anxiety though xx

I wish I had advice but I kinda feel the same at times. So unfortunately I understand exactly how you feel😌

I’m 9month pp and 22month pp from my first. I was ok after my first but really struggled after my 2nd (my son only just turned 1 when she arrived) I couldn’t understand why everything was so hard but you just need to be super patient. I think the hardest thing after having a baby is how much you change as a person/looks/dress sense what you can/can’t wear (I even struggled with the underwear I was wearing) My husband does not care but I look in the mirror and don’t recognise myself and it’s hard. I’ve only just started feeling like I have some form of energy or something to make an effort - so trust me it takes time. It’s hard but keep talking, if you have mum friends, they will get you through and if not, when your ready get out to some baby groups - trust me they’re really just therapy sessions for mums 😂 Start with eating and drinking right - the rest will come in time. Inbox is always open 🫶

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