Fiancé has CF
So I’m about to get married on Tuesday which I am so excited about!! He was one of the biggest blessings I received as a single mom. He is absolutely amazing with my son and I have not a single doubt in my head that I’m ready to be married to this man but Thursday night we both found out that most men (almost all of them) can’t naturally produce a child. It says they’re infertile because they’re missing something that releases the sperm so it’s not that we wouldn’t be able to have biological children just not naturally. I love him so much and we always talked about having 3 more children but I don’t think we would ever be able to afford it right now and by the time that we would be able to afford it I wouldn’t want to have them. I’ve already set a cut off time for myself because I don’t want my son to have more than a 10 year age gap to his siblings. I’ve accepted the fact that my son may be my only kid and I don’t mind that one bit because he’s more than enough for me but I feel like a garbage person because I’m not willing to change my mind on having more kids later in life. I would love to give him a child but it just doesn’t feel like it’s in the cards for us and I’m not gonna lie some times I feel like I’m hurt about the little ones we would’ve had.
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First of all congratulations and I hope you have a wonderful wedding tomorrow. You sound so in love with a wonderful man for you and your son (I can relate). The way you speak of him is refreshing to here, it made me smile. Second I cannot offer any advice about your situation, have you spoken or thought about seeing a specialist? Also I understand the age gap, however if you're able to have children later on would you reconsider it if you were presented with options to? Don't feel like garbage if you don't change your mind, your really not. 🤍
Ohh 💔💔 its surly a surprise but dont worry till you try, god is the one that provide everything including kids and their needs financially and emotionally everything, ask him for guidance we have sth called Estkhara prayer for these situations Think wisely don't blame yourself it will not do any good think whats the best option for you now and in 10 years? What about you kid? Does it matter 10 less or more gab put everything in front of you and decide and pray for the best and for patience so you can accept and adapt