Single&pregnant

Hey mama, I did both of my pregnancies single🫶🏼

i did my pregnancy single, feel free to message me x

@Abi can we be friends too 😅 my daughter is 11 months so similar age x

@emily of course x

Hey I did it. Still doing solo parenting. If you need me message x

Hey girl, i did my alone!!! X

I did, appointments alone too. Still a solo mum now to my little girl x

I did my whole finding out (a bit late) was pregnant, pregnancy and motherhood so far alone. Father of my LO lives abroad and isn’t and likely won’t be involved. Been a rollercoaster but still here surviving 😅 Felt entirely the same, everything felt so geared towards ‘mummy this, daddy that’ at anything I went to that was pregnancy related. It actually amazed me how backwards the industry is as a whole tbh (and felt for those that may be widowed or in same sex couples who might also have gone to appointments or baby shows or scans etc alone). And then dealing with other expecting mums or new mums talking as if everyone was as standard ‘in a couple’. It was hard at the best of times. But it gets easier x

I'm 34 weeks pregnant and literally as week speak ignoring my very new (I'm talking in the last hour) ex trying to open the locked porch doors and blowing up my phone. I already have two children from a previous relationship too, I can't put into words the shame I feel right now for allowing this to happen to me again. We as single mums are always always made out to be the problem, as if we wanted to be raising our children alone. We will always face stigma. But there are a lot of us and so you will never truly be alone x

@Amber this is soo true. I got comments from my old local mum and baby WhatsApp group in my old area of “oh did he not want it”. I swear people always think we are always the problem. But sometimes it’s failed contraception and we don’t have the heart to terminate. Or the man’s personality changed and wasn’t safe to be around for mother or baby. Or he encouraged the pregnancy to remain and then turned out to be entirely everything you thought he wasn’t. One mum asked (because she knew I wasn’t married to the father of my now LO did he just not want it and you did. Wasn’t the case at all. But we as single mums seem to at times get very stereotyped when sometimes others have no idea of the circumstances of becoming a single mum and what we have had to walk in our path for the best interests of the child. It’s sad that single mums get stereotyped so much at times. But I truly believe we sometimes become strong because we have to. And that’s the most important thing x

Currently 31weeks and been single since 20weeks - left a mentally abusive relationship and the dad will not be having any involvement with baby. My messages are always open xx

Hey! I did pregnancy single and I’m doing parenting single too☺️💙

@Emma it has to be a degree of ignorance because the story is a tale as old as time isn't it, man wants a baby but none of the responsibility. My ex was so invested in us having a baby and growing as a family, and he was and has continued to be amazing with my two older children... how was I to predict that once I actually got pregnant he would be selfish, dismissive and at times abusive? But people don't consider that a possibility, we MUST have known and voluntarily chosen to have a child with a scumbag/loser/cheater 🙄 But you are right, we become stronger and do what's required of us.