Weird feelings🫠

I’m in the exact same situation as you. We have our SS pretty much 50/50 but there is always an issue! I do so much and there just zero appreciation or respect. The mother is very irrational and often verbally abusive to me and my partner. There has been times where I’ve clocked myself feeling resentment but I’m determined not to let it get in the way of my relationship with my SS though as he loves coming to ours and loves his little sister. You’re definitely not alone, all my friends with step kids feel like this tbh 😩😂 hang in there ❤️

It’s such a hard one On one hand I’d say if you feel so negatively towards your step kid then you need to leave because that’s not fair on a literal child and you’re punishing them for their mothers feelings But on the other hand, their mum is causing the issues and eventually they will realise that and if you love your partner can you get past the ex and just continue to try and build a relationship and be there and hopefully soon he will see that you’re not the problem etc It’s shit

I don’t enjoy being a step mum either and I have never spoken to anybody that does, so don’t be hard on yourself. The only dynamic that doesn’t seem to find it as difficult is when both have children from a previous relationship, or where they too are high conflict and enjoy the drama. Where that isn’t the case I think there is always a struggle. My stepdaughter loves her brother (our son) and she loves her dad and is also very fond of me, so I try and take the positives from that, and carry on for all of them. However if there was an option to not be raising another woman’s child and still have my son and husband, I would definitely opt for that, but that just isn’t our reality. I wonder if you too could try and find some positives and when the resentment kicks in just draw on those to regain perspective. All the best xx

I’ve had a dodgy relationship with my SD since she was 6. Her mom is the most toxic and vile person I’ve ever met. SD blames 90% of her mental health issues on her mom but still won’t cut her off. Her MH issues got worse after she gave birth to the point she abandoned the baby with us. We now have him full time and one minute SD is fine and nice to us and the next she is vile and blames us for taking her son away. It’s a vicious circle and with a toxic BM who went out of her way to make up allegations against us to stop us having the baby full time makes everything worse. I don’t think I’ll ever have a decent relationship with my SD while she still has a relationship with her mom as her mom messes with her head causing her to blame us for her actions