One and done

I was absolutely a one and done and always had been, even before getting pregnant. However, the older my daughter has got (now 2), I have enjoyed it more and I've completely changed my mind. If we had one, I'd be happy and content but I would feel the same for 2. The baby stage is so hard but I have found it does get easier (generally). If you stick with one, then her friends will become her family. I think it's about providing lots of opportunities for socialisation and experiences.

I am one and done. My partner and I decided this before we had our daughter. We honestly can’t imagine having another, she’s our whole world; we can focus 100% on her. I loved pregnancy and despite the lost sleep and rough patches, I wouldn’t change anything. Financially, we want to be able to provide her with everything we can. We love travelling as well, which is expensive so having one means we can afford to do more. I have a sibling but we’re not close, there’s no guarantee that siblings automatically will be. My partner is also older and didn’t want to be an “old” dad. You’ve got to do what’s right for you and your situation.

I’m probably going to be one and done. More so due to my age I’m 38 I know it might not seem old to some but I personally don’t want to be a mum in my 40s with a newborn. My baby won’t have cousins but he will have lots of friends around him and be truly spoilt by all the family so I don’t think he will miss out at all.

I feel like one and done is great for us who love travel and a more comfortable lifestyle also! It’s just so easy with one and you’ll never be outnumbered

I’m happily one and done for multiple reasons. Firstly it took me a long time to even make the decision of wanting one. As others have said, financially I want us to be comfortable and give her as much support as we can. I feel complete as a family of three and cannot imagine introducing another baby into our dynamic. Knowing we’re one and done I’m taking this the opportunity to be a SAHM which I’m lucky we can do without too much trouble, but this would be massively stretched with two and it’s likely I would be pushed back into work before I wanted to. She is very sociable and has family, friends and pets to play with as well as me for at least the first 2-3 years so I don’t worry about her not having a sibling relationship. No guarantee they’ll get along. My baby was the easiest most chill baby and I’m still not interested.

I am one and done. I wasn't expecting to have children so when my LO came along it was quite a surprise. I am a bit older too and found the pregnancy awful, the labour was very traumatic due to complications and the pp stage was also difficult. My LG is amazing and couldn't picture my life without her, but honestly couldn't go through that again. My lifestyle pre baby was very spontaneous and I love to travel which will be much easier to maintain with the one. I have met loads of mums in the area with kids the same age so happy she will be well socialised.

TW: miscarriage We decided to be one and done. I adore my son and it breaks my heart a bit that it'll just be him. We had two miscarriages before him, then a threatened miscarriage with him. I was then hospitalised with pre eclampsia and induced early for our safety. My partner doesn't want to see me go through that again and we don't feel it's fair on our son if we're mourning any more miscarriages and taking time and energy away from him, or if I'm in hospital and putting my life at risk (dramatic but true, it was quite bad) We're going to focus on socialisation and let him spend as much time with friends as possible

I feel the same way! I have a babygirl who is 8 weeks, I absolutely adore her. But the way my labor went, I most likely wont be having anymore. I do sometimes think about what it would be like to have a larger family, or what it would be like to have a son as well.

One and done because: Previous miscarriages, I can't face the thought of a miscarriage after having my LG Hated every pregnancy, but didn't realise how much I hated my pregnancy with my LG until I gave birth and allowed myself to have all the feelings I was suppressing My LG is an angel, I know that I couldn't cope with half of the challenges other mums face, and I certainly couldn't cope facing them with my LG as well. I think society is obsessed with having multiple children and sometimes people don't allow themselves to acknowledge they probably won't cope with more than one child because they JUST want more, but fail to acknowledge they may have limitations with may impact on the children.

I am one & done because of health reasons. My husband & myself both have a disability so we wouldn't physically be able to cope with any more. I much preferred the baby stage to the toddler stage, though. Babies are so much easier than toddlers 😅

9 month old is still so young. I was one and done after my daughter and she turned 4 and I suddenly REALLY wanted another one. Give yourself time 👍🏻 and if you do decide to stick with one there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

If it helps, as an only child I don’t feel like I missed out on having siblings! I do have cousins of a similar age but they lived quite far away so that wasn’t really a factor. There’s so many benefits to being 1 and done for parents and child!

We were one and done and have a soon to be 4 year old, but seems god has different plans as I'm nearly 8 weeks pregnant, and really not enjoying it. I feel a bit sad knowing I've gotta do the whole thing again. Only positive is we're not in lockdown so won't be stuck indoors

There is no way I am ever ever ever having another baby. My pregnancy was terrible mentally and physically. I was alone from day one and I got pre eclampsia. My birth was horrendous, I gave birth 5 weeks early after a short stay in hospital via emergency c section after going blind from the medication for my pre eclampsia. Newborn stage was hard as I was completely alone doing multiple night feeds. It’s still hard now at 5 months as he’s in the regression and once again I’m alone.. exhausted. I couldn’t do this again and I don’t trust men enough for it to not happen and be left alone again.

@Elena ugh, sorry you experienced this. Sounded like a nightmare & completely understandable why you wouldn't have another. Sending you love 💖

@Sudanny✨ thank you ❤️‍🩹