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Oh and you’re right, he probably needs to be educated about TTC, it’s unlikely to happen after one night. Most couples are advised to try to have sex at least 3-4 times a week, and not just when you might be fertile.
Hmmm I’d be put off having a child with a man who told me to loose weight!!!! That’s rotten!
@Anke No, we don’t have sex as we co sleep and my son is a Velcro baby. Only now he’s able to sleep alone for first part of the night. So we can have evenings together after 20 months.
Ahh in that case it makes a bit more sense - I’m glad your baby is starting to give you both a bit of space again! 20 months is a long time, kudos to you ❤️ Ignoring the weight comment (which is not ok and is understandably off-putting) - I guess you could interpret his suggestion for a hotel as a romantic gesture, in that he wants to re-instigate intimacy with you in a special way. I’d recommend sitting down with him to explain how his comments about your weight have made you feel, and also to manage expectations in terms of future intimacy and TTC. It doesn’t have to be PJs in the spare bedroom the whole time, but equally it’s unlikely you’re going to be able to make a baby with one night in a hotel. It’s really hard to get back in the swing of it with a baby, but maybe there are little things you can do for each other at home e.g. scented baths with candles, massages? He needs to woo you and to make you feel sexy and desired again but he probably needs some reassurance too ❤️
I’m a bit confused by this post. Do you and your husband not have sex? Is he saying let’s book a hotel for the purpose of having sex, which you don’t have at home? Or is he suggesting booking a hotel to have a special night, in addition to the bog standard intimacy at home? Also, suggesting you lose some weight is not ok. What does he propose to do to make himself more attractive for you? Maybe you should book him in for a back, sack and crack wax. Or does it only work one way in his head?