Infidelity

We both were unfaithful to each other in different times but stayed and worked things out. You’re more than welcome to message me privately!

@s a r a 🥀 I’ll message you now! Thank you for being open 🤍

got cheated on and stayed and it ended up ruining several years of my life.

@Sarah I’m so sorry you went through that 🤍 I hope your situation is better and you’re creating a new branch of life

Got cheated on and stayed and ot ruined me cause he co tinted. 😒

I stayed with both my ex baby daddies after they cheated nd I tried to make it work I wasted 6 years with first he kept cheating nd my 2nd baby daddy I wasted 3 years I will never do that again waste years I took therapy nd healed of course then I met my husband uhhhhh never cheated never hurt me physically just pure love nd respect… I do believe some ppl change but it rare very rare but possible Goodluck

I am, thank you. I hope you're able to do the same 🩷 driving 4 hours is some serious intent.

Unless you can fully forgive him without an ounce of resentment, take my advice and leave him. You don't deserve to be cheated on especially while pregnant. Don't waste years of your life to come to that same conclusion.

The old friend was a female? Should have known he was going to smash… but you can’t stop someone from cheating

@Julie I’ve never met her, never heard about her before, so there was no way for me to know about her. I have male friends- still wouldn’t consider ever doing what he did. I just think she was either someone who was available to him in the past or he went on an app.

@Sammer That’s a huge problem I’m having thank you for your response

@Amber I believe people can change too, but sometimes I’m like why couldn’t you have changed or been better before it got to this point. I’m so sorry that all happened to you, but incredibly happy you’re with someone now who truly loves and respects you!

@Sarah That’s what I was saying. He had 4 hours to REALLY think about it and he still went through with it. That’s commitment.

I stayed at first and it only morphed into every other type of abuse over time and eventually him even paying for it. I absolutely refuse to stay with anyone I can’t trust and so reckless with my loyalty ever again. Not to say people can’t change, but once bitten and all that… live your amends and be better to someone else cause I’ll be gone!

Not sure how he is going to explain his way out of that one! The usual drunken one night stand excuse doesn't cut it when you've actively arranged a meeting and driven 4 hours to carry it out. I'm so sorry. As someone else has said, you have to be willing to park the infidelity and not use it against him in arguments later down the line. Personally, I wouldn't be able to let this one lie, but he's not my partner. I think the fact that she was a friend you had never met was a red flag too. Going forward, you would need to discuss boundaries, and I think driving to meet a female friend you don't know should be one of them.

I got cheated on while I was heavily pregnant and after I gived birth didn’t find out till my daughter turned 1 last year, worked it out but I still have my Doubts in my head and it’s probably ruined me if am honest xx

Wow, he drove 4 hours for a shag, that's some serious commitment there! I'm not sure I could get over that I'll be honest. As you say, he had 4 hours to think about whether it was a good idea and STILL did it!

I emotionally cheated with my ex at the beginning of me and my husbands relationship (terribly abusive relationship he was in jail for strangling me with our two year old In my arms) I was heartbroken and getting sober and going to therapy navigating myself and although it’s no excuse for what I did, I was going through a lot. My husband forgave me, I haven’t spoke to my ex in nearly 2 years now and he communicates through my husband.

I don’t think I’d be able to forgive that… it’s not like a drunken slip-up. He had a long time sober alone to change his mind on the way there. But it sounds like he told you about it? Is he apologising and saying it was a mistake? Because if he did then that shows he regrets it and doesn’t want to do it again. Worse if he was keeping it a secret in which case he might intend to do it again. Either way I’m so sorry, this is such a cruel thing for him to do to you 💔

Got cheated on and left. I didn't have kids and wasn't married but still hurt like hell and was really tough. You deserve so much better. Once a cheater always a cheater. You'll always struggle to trust him as well. Good luck and I'm so so sorry this happened to you.

I stayed for the first time, and the second, and the third…and the 20th. Until I was finally fed up, 3.5 years later.. I say leave the first time. It’ll save you a lot of heart ache. From experience.

Stayed once and it was just a waste and a shitty two years after. Never again

i was cheated on and i stayed in hopes that because he was caught he wouldn’t do it again but he viewed it as permission and continued so ultimately left xx