Regret Getting Pregnant
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@Gabrielle unlike most people I don’t have a village to help 😩
I got married at 19 and had my first baby when i was 20. I was not ready , I wasn’t done going out with friends, i wanted to travel more, i wanted to finish school, i wanted a better job and save more , but i promise you they are SO worth it. They make up for EVERYTHING you wanted to do and couldn’t do. At times your going to feel so sad and depressed but when you look at your baby, you’re looking at the world 🥹🩷 the make you feel good and happy. God puts these babies in our lives because we need them more than ever, God never gives us something we can’t take care of, it may be difficult but he’s testing your patience ❤️
@Fatema this is definitely how I feel … I had so much potential and. I wanted to finish school etc … I thru it all down the drain 😭😭but ur right everything happens for a reason!
Even with no help you can still go on with life. Sure if you’re working then you’d need to do maternity leave. But if you plan to stay home then you can still do stuff. You can still hang out with people you meet you can still go out to stores and the mall and stuff like that. We got married young and had kids young and I feel like the kids brought so much joy to us. They helped us not be bored and we have our besties with us all the time
I waited till later to have kids, got pregnant at 30. But I still had the same feelings as you and @Fatema express. And similar to you it was really bad towards the end of the pregnancy. I think back now and agree with @Gabrielle that it’s probably prepartum depression. Which lead me to also have postpartum depression/anxiety. Tell your doctor and see what they say. I didn’t and I wish I had. I struggled so badly because I thought it wasn’t ppd. I thought it would just go away. It didn’t. At least not until much later. It’s the hormones. I’m all balanced now. But I wish someone would have pushed to talk to my doctor
As someone who did it at 20 and 22, DV marriage and a lot of hell, you can and will make it through. I still got 2 degrees, a career I love and am respected for. I eventually got out of that dead end marriage and found real love and my boys were the motivation throughout it all. It was so hard, I wouldn’t ever dare say it was easy, but at 35 and having my third I regret nothing. It may not go how you planned but don’t give up. You’ve lost nothing, this is just a plot twist in the story. Sending love ❤️❤️❤️
Why do you consider it putting your life on hold for your baby? I mean everything I want to do I can still do with my daughter I just plan and manage my time better. (I was pregnant at 21) You still can do things.
Your probably have prepartum depression. I would definitely talk to your doctor and try to speak to people and get into some therapy to help talk through these feelings. Baby blues can be very common for people. Why do you think you need to put your life on hold?