Second Baby Anxiety

Hi! Looking for advice or thoughts. My husband and I just got married and we have a 19 month old daughter. We know we want more kids, but I thought we both still weren’t ready to even talk about it. He brought it up yesterday and told me he was ready for another one. I expressed that I wasn’t, that I’ve even thought I might be okay with just the one (even though I know I definitely want more, I’m just still very happy with where we are at with our one kid). Our first baby is perfect and amazing, but she didn’t sleep literally at all for the first year and it killed me. I still have major anxiety going to bed and waking up early because my body has never felt rested since I went through that. I am afraid of the postpartum period. I look back and it’s such a dark time for me. Has anyone else experienced this? What made you ready to have a second baby?

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I don't have any advice, but just wanted to say that I'm in a similar situation. I know my husband wants another one but I'm still trying to decide if we will be one and done, even though I also very much feel like I want to have another.

In the same situation but I'm only 6m pp so going to wait for the 18months as I had an emcs and see how I feel then...if I'm not ready that's fine with my husband too as long as I'm comfortable and on board is what matters to him and me. After all we do go through the brick of it all to be fair.

I found the first year really challenging. I felt really lonely, overwhelmed and it took a toll on our relationship. We'd always discussed having two children but with that I thought there was no way even though I knew deep down I still wanted two. Fast forward to our son turning two and my husband actually brought up having the second child as we were in a really good place again. For us it just took time and you'll know if/when you're ready. I'm 19 weeks now with our second

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