Am I Alone

This the most difficult time and doing it alone would be worst you need to find a mediator like a therapist that can help you communicate and help him understand what you are going through as a mom because it is hard it took my husband 2 babies to understand how much I go through postpartum feeling alone

I second couples counseling. It's a game changer, especially in big life changes and dynamics like a new baby. Stay well ❤️

I literally say nothing now and deal with all my emotions alone. I am OK for a while then I feel I can no longer do it. I feel he don't care about me or his child

It’s hard on both after a baby please seek counseling don’t let your postpartum not let you fix your marriage 🩵

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The first few weeks are really hard as a couple … we had a lot of issue my husband wasn’t him Self at all .. but with time since started to get better

I get it. It's not an easy time and then taking the extra emotional trial of explaining things to someone who doesn't get it seems like "why bother". But, taking it all on, physically, emotionally, mentally will push you over the edge. You will both need to try and get on the same page and work as a team. I can imagine that seems impossible with where you are both at...but thats when the counselor/therapist can help bridge that gap in a space where the deffensive walls dont go up causing things to get worse. Sometimes men have a hard time kicking into parenthood and will need guidance. It's not your job to guide, the therapist will help. Im sorry you are going through this!

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I think that some of us married a guy and when babies come, we meet a whole different person. I'm not sure if that can be fixed, to be honest, but I would try for sure. The question is, is this person going to be like this always? Or would he learn to work as a team and have your back?

I would say be a little patient. When you feel like arguing, counsel yourself: Is it really necessary or a pressing issue ? You need to take care of yourself mentally as you can't pour from an empty cup. Think about list of priorities, I know it sounds old school but there must be some little thing that your husband is doing right. Whenever you get upset at him think about all those things. It might change your perspective and pursue him to change his ways. I always find it helpful to create positive thoughts of the reality you want and not about how the reality is actually. Therapist will also ask you do all this activities of thinking good about each other so better save yourself and use that time with your newborn. You can still seek help if needed or out of your control but dont let this situation take away your mind peace. Hope you find this helpful ❤️

You’re not alone mama. I was feeling the exact same way right before giving birth and absolutely in the weeks after birth. I’m 9 weeks out now and it’s starting to get better. Hang in there. Don’t make any rash decisions when you’re having so much change emotionally hormonal and big changes in the home and marriage with new baby. Just try to do your own thing, bond with baby, and remain calm. If you guys can do therapy, so do it!

It is a very stressful time and a lot of change... idk if leaving is the solution. But seeking help is good

I'm going through that right now being pregnant. I have a feeling that that's exactly what I have to look forward to after my daughter is born. This sucks. I wish you would leave but he's on the lease so I feel completely trapped and stuck with someone I want nothing to do with.