Bonding with stepchildren
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What are their ages? I think knowing this will help with advice x
They’re 9 and 3 xx
I’m a SM to a 4 year old little girl, the one thing I will say, effort, time and affection. It comes with time, try doing stuff she enjoys and being active when she’s playing x
I used to be like this! 4 years down and there’s still times I feel anxious, best advice is don’t push it with them, involve yourself in games etc as much as possible, speak to them and just let them know you’re there for them whenever they need you x
Given the age gap I would take one out for an activity by themselves (cinema for the older one, soft play for the younger one for example) and the bonus is the other gets one to one time with their dad whilst you do that.. and then obviously there’s family days when you’re all involved together. Don’t stress, the fact you’re anxious and even asking this question indicates you care and are obviously a lovely step mom 🥰
Don’t force it and let it happen naturally. Try to remove any preconceived expectations of how you should feel or they should feel and create an authentic relationship that is unique to your own family x
Completely understand! Try getting involved in what they are doing, I’ve found that getting involved in SS games work. SS is now a teen and enjoys when Dad and I watch a show with him that we liked as kids. It gets us all talking.