Marriage/relationship break ups

Is a marriage separation harder than a normal breakup in any relationship? A family member, is separating from her wife, she seems upset and I don’t know how to comfort her, she said it’s hurts and is hard to move on and I’ve said that I obviously don’t know what exactly she’s going through because I’ve never been married and she said it’s just like a normal break up, and I don’t mean to judge her but I feel like breakups in a normal relationship is harder than a marriage ending, which do you think this is mostly for the married portion but all opinions are welcome

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Marriage has more ties and financial bs to go through. If there are kids involved it’s even harder. It’s not as clean as a break up where you don’t share financial responsibility or kids

@Julie that’s honestly what I was thinking honestly, but I know they didn’t have any kids, I love my partner and I feel tied to him but we aren’t married so I felt like I couldn’t judge when she said this because I fear how hard it would be on me and my child if we broke up but I could imagine it only being so much being married, because I believe when you marry someone because you love them so much that you can’t see your life without them, and you want to share your life with them so her saying it was like any other breakup threw me off

I think it the same. Some people live together and have kids without being married and the break up is still hard. Getting a divorce is more expensive yeah but the actual pain of a break up should differ because you’re married/not married.

I voted for marriage due to the entire process, etc. But its all about how you feel about it and who you are as a person, if kids are involved, how long you've been with that person, the reasons, if you are the one who wants it or not etc. It's not black and white.

I feel like marriage is harder bc essentially you made a vow. A promise to be there for each other until the end. Marriage is not the same bc you made the next step of commitment. There is no just leaving. It’s a lot that goes into it verses a regular relationship you leave and don’t have to worry about as much damage. Breakups can be traumatic either way but i think to there’s more of a punch with divorce.

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